How to deal with jealousy + insecurity - FOR WOMEN

How to deal with jealousy + insecurity - FOR WOMEN

Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from VitalCoaching.com we are talking about Jealousy for women and the topic for this video is Dealing with Jealousy and Insecurity.

Now, this is an introduction to the program that I have on my site on VitalCoaching.com. It is available at VitalCoaching.com/jealousyforwomen.htm. Now, what I want to do in this video is simply introduce you a little bit to a couple of concepts and key ideas about dealing with jealousy. So, that you understand more about jealousy dynamics and are able to tackle and you know get rid of jealousy or diligence when it is not needed.

So, the first thing I want to say is that you have two types of jealousy. The first one is the jealousy, a type of jealousy which is unjustified. It means that you express a jealousy response or an insecurity response in situations where it is not really needed or required. Okay. That is one situation.

You are going to feel the insecure or even be delusional in some situations believe that your boyfriend or husband or partner is doing something when he is not—you know imagine things, these kinds of things. These are situations where jealousy is unjustified.

And then, you have situations where jealousy is justified. In situations where for instance your partner is often flirting with another girl or he cheated on you or you find out that his activity interacting with a woman somewhere and he did not tell you about it, you know you find out he did in text messages or email these kind of things.

So, there are certain situations where your jealousy is justified because there is something going on, there is something really going on. So you have those two types of situations right on one side you have unjustified jealousy and on the other side you have justified jealousy.

This is the first thing to understand in some situations, jealousy will be justified. It is wise to express your jealousy in some situations, it is not. So when I am saying that I know that I am tackling most of the beliefs that are out there concerning jealousy because most of the time jealousy is labeled as a bad thing in any situation, okay. And, this is not what I am saying; I am saying that in some situations jealousy is good. It is good to express it, it is good to defend your territory, and it is good to use it as a weapon, as a tactic weapon to defend what is yours and to protect your relationship, okay. Another thing to understand is that jealousy is a weapon. It is a psychic weapon that was given to people, to women and man to defend the territory of your relationship. This is the original purpose of jealousy, is to make

Just to make sure that when you make babies together, you are probably does not run out. Does not run away with somebody else and eventually you end up by your self without any form of protection.

So this is the first thing to realize. It is that in some situations your jealousy with weapon would be really needed to protect yourself and your relationship. Try to go back, imagine your life 500,000 years ago in tribal times you needed a man to be there at present to protect your self and the kids otherwise you will get in trouble.

So, jealousy in this situation was really needed nowadays, you still need jealousy as a weapon when you feel that there is a threat on your relationship. And, that there is something that can happen which is going to destroy your relationship if for instance your partner forcing out with another woman and you do not want this to happen.

So, in this situations jealousy is justified, it is a weapon, it is a fighting weapon that you can use in certain situations. Another thing to understand about jealousy is that it is intimately linked with insecurity. And, very often insecurity is linked with the fact that you do not feel too happy about your life or your body you know there are lots of situations of insecurity where actually women feel insecure because they do not feel really good about themselves.

So, anything that threatens them or their relationship, they will feel very low of energy because of that. So remember that, insecurity and jealousy very often go hand and hand, okay.

This is just a quick introduction, I encourage you to go and check again on my site VitalCoaching.com/jealousyforwomen.htm for the full set of strategies.

Take care and enjoy. Goodbye.