He asked for my number - Now what? - FOR WOMEN!

Hi! This is Francisco Bujan, I am from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating success for women and the topic for this video is, he asked for my number, now what? This was another question that was posted on my channel and it is a good one of course. The thing that happens when a guy ask you for your number is that he will sometimes call and sometimes not. And I would say if I had to give an estimation that probably 50% of the cases a guy won’t call you. Nothing he should contact and even though you gave him your number.

Why is it that he does not call, I mean if he does not want to call he should contact why does he gets your number in the first place. Why sometimes the guy will ask you for your number just as a kind of challenge, he wants to see if he cannot get it. If you would be open for it. So simply picking that steps and he asking you for your number is a kind of challenging step that he takes to see if he has the guts to ask you if he manages to get it.

So that is one thing. I do know that he is not fair you think why, he is playing kind of games with me and it is true sometimes it is happens, sometimes you had players out there. Guys why do you not that as a kind of game. As a kind of conquering game to see if they can get your number.

So another thing that can be happen is that maybe a guy will or saw on the spot , they are going to see if your finger is an exciting thing to do, to see him. But then when he thinks about it, he will ask is that, maybe he does not have the time or maybe he has another girlfriend or maybe he is busy with something else and does not really dare to take the step.

Sometimes as well guys are going to be scared because simply to pick up the phone and call you. I mean, you are missing that movie, Drive Thru, you see that sometimes the guy will pick up the phone and kind of, dialing in before him, down again because it is a bit challenging sometimes to speak with a stranger and ask her out.

So some guys are pretty hopeless, they had actually no idea what to say or when they would call you and getting your number was charging from the, maybe he did that in a long time. So his keeping contact again with you might be challenging.

So all that, you can sit by her and that is a pity because maybe you would be open to have a conversation and date with the guy. So I agree with you except on the, it is a pity but here is what you can do about it, first time you give him your number, you make it very clear that you are not going to reject him when he calls. You say, call me and we will be good, first thing to see her again. If you are very clear about that and he knows that you are excited to see him again and then it should be, maybe it would be easier for him not to fear rejection from you and take the step and do your call. That is one thing.

Another thing is that once you know that, maybe 50% of the situations because he does not call. You do not sit back and wait for a month for him to call. If he does not initiate the call within a week, the chances that he will not ever take the step. So you can simply step by and accept that as one of the challenges of dating and even make sure that you have other options.

If you really rely on a guy to call you for your dating success, this is going to lock you into some form emotional dead end. You do not want that. You want to have your options open. Not have your expectations too high even when a guy asks you for your number and you give to him. You cannot really look at it from the perspective of that one possibility. That is one option that something that can happen. But other sometime I do need to have high expectations. I cannot keep on seeing other guys. I can have other options for the date. So the possibilities and this is going to maintain high level of emotional freedom for you.

Remember that, the moment that you start crashing the moment, you start getting in trouble or having pain with dating, he is going to give a way too much. You start loving somebody who does not love you back yet to that some extent.

So, the guy asking for your number is not yet in guarantee that this guy is going to show any form of commitment. Obviously he is just a little window of a book.

So do not expect too much. Do not put your hopes too high. So if you keep on living now you do not wait if you gave your number to somebody, just keep on living your way. If you want to go on dates with her, the guys go ahead and do it. You owe him nothing, okay. That is one thing to remember. Take care and enjoy. Bye-bye.