How to deal with jealousy - Revealing facts!

Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are talking about jealousy.

The reason to why I am recording this video is, really because, I have seen dozens and dozens of couples who get destroyed, really. People break up, they divorce because of jealousy, controlling and demanding issues. And, that is not a very good thing, right? If you are right now, in a situation where either you or your partner is too demanding and it is putting lots of pressure on your relationship, you know, lots of fights, tensions and you realized that you have to do something about it before it is to late, then you have to listen this.

Okay, imagine that you are one who is jealous, right. The one who tends to over react, the one who tends to be needy or demanding, or controlling. What you have to know right now, it is that, unless you do something about it, you are going to create a lot of trouble in your relationship. In the best case, you might still stay together but it might make you very unhappy. And the worst case, your partner is simply going to finish your relationship and break up. And the reason why they do that, it is because it is not fun to be in the situation where you have a partner who is too demanding, needy or controlling, or jealous in unjustified ways.

Now, what I want to tell you, it is that jealousy exists for a reason. In the first place, it was invented by the nature, by our own minds, by our own, you know, instincts to achieve, perfect the relationship. It has a positive purpose originally. When you are jealous, you are actually trying to do it right. You are trying to protect the space of your relationship, so that this space is not being threatened, and it was necessary to have this protection on the psychic level so that, you know, your children are safe when they are born. So, if you are, for instance, if you are the woman and your husband runs away then it creates a spear of insecurity, and therefore, you need a certain weapon or a certain energy or certain reaction to be able to protect that.

Now, what has been happening for the last thousandths of years, it has been an over used of the jealousy weapon. Jealousy is a weapon, right? But it has been overused. It means that you go all the way to the other side and you actually do exactly the opposite of what you are trying to do in the first place, right? You start destroying your relationship with this weapon. I mean, imagine fire for instance. Fire is a very positive force, if you know how to use it. Now, if you over used it, you can burn down your house literally, and that is what happens with jealousy. Jealousy is a weapon, it is a force, it is a power, and if you know how to use it, well, it is all for the best of your relationship.

There are some cases, some isolated cases where jealousy is justified, and it is very good to use it in those situations, but 95%of the cases, it is used in a situation where it is not needed. So that is the first thing to realize, there is justified and unjustified jealousy. Now, once you know that, once you realize that and you start playing with that force, you start using it in a positive way so that it does not destroy your relationship. And, what you have to know right now is that there is a way to master that. If you start focusing on it, I guarantee you that within a month; you can make a massive progress. I am sure that most people can get rid of 80% of the jealousy patterns once they understand how first jealousy works and the path to recover, or to go back to your proper state of mind.

What you have to know, as well, it is that, I am not telling you that you have to loose your power that you have to give away your control over life, your relationship, or your couple. But, what you do is learn how to play with your power, how to play with this energy, so that it does not destroy your relationship.

Now, what it comes to, it comes too late to using your power differently. You have a power, which is called control, right? The ability to control what is yours and you over use it; you tend to limit the space in your relationship.

So, that is more or less all I can say in this five minutes video. Now, what I want you to do is very simple, if you or your partner is creating lots of problem because of jealousy, demanding, or controlling attitudes, go straight away to vitalcoaching.com. You will see that there is a couple of links there with two sets of programs, one for man and one for woman, which teaches you exactly how to live with jealousy issues, okay. The path to deal with jealousy issues is first, to understand the dynamics and then to start making little changes one step at a time and my guarantee is really that within 30 days, if you focused on it, you can really shift at this dynamic in your relationship and get, make really great purpose.

Again, it is all in vitalcoaching.com. Go and check it out straight away. Take care and have a great day. Bye-bye.