I want to be number one in his mind! - FOR WOMEN

Hi this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating success for women and the topic for this video is I want to be number one in his mind. This is another question that was posted on my channel and I am going to read you after I read your original question because I want to be number one in his mind was not the way it was posted but I am going to read it to you so that you will understand more what this is about. The real question is how do you make the man want you as more than just a casual thing, when you know he also has other women he is interested in.

Now, when we are talking about this, we are talking about one of the key challenges that you face in the dating world, it is competition. Okay, if we had to redesign the dating world, we would redesign it. We find the competition part of it because these is extremely challenging. It is challenging to go out there and realize that when you want to date somebody there, this person is going to have other option. Okay, this is nice, it is a good thing but at the same time when you are the one who is pursuing or who is interested into somebody whether you are a man or a woman, it is always a challenge.

So, how do you deal with this challenge, what if you are a woman and you are interested in this guy and you know that he is very attractive he looks success with women and you seem you want to be the one he wants to have him in his life. So, what do you do? What you have to realize is that competition which is going to an extent is actually quite fair, it means that when the guy looks at you, he is going to going to assess your qualities in a very instinctual way. He is going to kind of tune in to you and no more less what, how high you score in different areas.

Now, I know that when you say scoring how can we talk about dating in that way, but that is exactly the way it works actually. When a guy is going to look at you and start connecting with you, he is going to be attracted to you for different reasons. First, there is the looks, Okay? The looks are very important; they come for probably for 50% of the attraction that happens between a man and a woman. And there is the personality that characterizes what to express. Then there is something more subtle we can call your level of happiness, your level of joy, vitality. This is an internal feeling, it is an internal sense of energy of what you read about it. This is something else, and then what we could call your network of connection. The time that you have very active social life, lots of friends and all that when he connects with you, he connects with this whole network, this whole potential circle of friends and all that is something that adds to the quality of your personality or opinion.

Something else is your personal foundation right. The fact that you have true love, the fact that you are well based in life, the fact that simply you go your personal stuff so this is another plus. And of course there are all at qualities, other element that you can add to that if you had one in mind, just keep on adding to this list. But what I want to tell you is simply that you have to score high, you know there is a risk to be number one in his life. If this guy has lot of options, lots of possibilities, the only way to be number one in his mind is to be the best. Okay?

So, for instance if you miss some elements, why is it supposed that you are very attractive, you have a great personality, you have lots of networks but do not have many friends or do not have the too active network of social life and that is a little problem. It means that this is going to be in a real world eventually you miss a little bit of it. But you will still score high maybe in other parts or areas.

Now what happens when somebody comes to his life who is going to score higher and if he has the possibility to be with that person, maybe he is going to choice for that person. Now it is not like a mathematical equation, it is more than that because there are also alignments in the best thing in life and the way that you stand together. But the basic idea is that yes, dating is qualitative environment and if your want to be number one in his mind, you have to be the best, okay.

That is the truth and I think it really works both for men and for women. I know that sometimes you are to get away from that rid and you do not want to look at it but honestly I think that is simply the way it works.

Okay, I enjoy and have a great day. Bye-bye.