Miragi

Miragi

Miragi last signed in Nov 24 2011 and has been on Bukisa since Nov 08, 2008.


About Me:

I'm a freelance writer, artist, and all-around creativity addict! Fabrics, fibers and yarn are my drug of choice! Lately, however, after having examined the wonders of the Foodie world, I have become a card-carrying Anti-Foodie with my own blog, where I attempt, one meal at a time to bring food back to reality!  I hope you find entertainment, information and value in my articles, and if so, please feel free to share them with your friends, family and complete strangers!  



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KittieC on How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 18th, Nov 2011

i agree one hunderd percent...with victoria. i have been married to a truck driver for 5 years now... i grew up with both parents being truck drivers...and let me tell you it has been one hell of a ride and alotta miles of heartache....my life is worth more than those miles that he drives everyday...


bvictoria on How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 25th, Feb 2011

I was reading the comments on this article and I found some of them disturbing. The main one I found disturbing is the one of the owner of a company making that statement about losing good drivers because of women that complain. Your statement 'we lose some or our best drivers to a needy, whining, nagging spouses'. I am one of those spouses that you are talking about who is trying to balance life, work and a family. Truck Drivers do not meet the needs of their family on a daily or even a weekly basis. Women carry the weight of that family life and all of the responsibilities that life hands her. Why is it that only the truck drivers life becomes the only thing important. He has a responsibility to his family to meet their needs and not only bring home some money because of the high expenses on the road. The stress that the family has to endure due to the drivers career choice is usually unbearable. These wives may have goals of their own that they are unable to accomplish, such as, school or work and their lives are on hold because they are doing the part of mommy and Daddy all by themselves. Truck Drivers throw the whole family out of balance and all of the family pay for that life style. Therefore, if a woman is not happy with the situation that is her choice as well. She should not have to carry those responsibilities if she does not want to. It is unhealthy for her and for the children in the family unit. The article itself touched on how she should make things work for her husband but the goal should be on how both should make it work for the family unit. Family should be the focus and it is both of their jobs to make that happen. This is unrealistic to encourage drivers to not put their family first but put their jobs first. If it is not working and she cannot do it by herself then he should make the adjustments necessary. It is not her responsibility to raise that family it is theirs! It is neglect and is not being recognized as neglect because it is socially acceptable. However, if a woman was not caring for the needs of her children, society would say something about that. So women will pick up all of the responsibilities of that family unit to compensate for her husbands inability to do so. Can this go on for a long time before something gives in that family unit? It is a misconception that by changing some things will fix the relationship. However, it may help for a short time but the on-going wear and tear on the family cannot not be repaired by some soothing techniques. My husband has been on the road for 14 years now and I can tell you from experience that everyone is missing the whole point and that is family and relationships. Bills can get paid in many different ways but you only have one family and many of these families are not succeeding and marriages are ending because of the lack of attendance and participation from their truck driving husbands. It is a lifestyle that I would never want to wish on my worst enemy! I think people like owners of driving companies need to recognize that the drivers are pulled away from tending to family needs and possible looking at a change in the way the industry works as apposed to putting the responsibility onto just the women in our society. Those women are under appreciated for the unrealistic expectations that are put on them! It is one of the hardest jobs to do. If you think drivers are stressed because they are on the road, you can only imagine what it is like for a woman who is trying to play both parts in a family and facing every obstacle by herself! I think that it is also difficult to expect a woman to be happy if she did not choose this life for her husband or if it was suppose to be a tempory job and then she is forced to live this way because the job change did not happen. Just a few things to think about.


onlynaval on The Best Way to Lose Weight Quickly on 5th, Feb 2011

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informationguru on Hearty Healthy Chicken & Spinach Penne on 16th, Dec 2010

Great article.. Time to eat.


Deborah Rock on Adjusting to the Empty Nest on 8th, Dec 2010

Good article! The empty nest is not something to look forward to. It sounds good sometimes, but it sure doesn't feel so good.


angelnjuly on Being the Better Patient: How to Get the Best Care from your Physician on 7th, Dec 2010

I believe a real cure can only be achieved with the cooperation between the doctor and the patient. Anyone patient who doesn't seem to believe in that process defeats the purpose.


Coral A Steria on How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 3rd, Dec 2010

I found this article while looking for a funny poem I saw recently about being a truck driver. I admitt i lookes over the comments first... I cant agree more with what this article said however, I know how hard it can be when you do your part and your trucker still comes home and plays on the computer ansd sleeps for two days. I have had to find that way of telling him the kids and I need attention while he is here with out hurting his feelings or causing resentment. Its a hard road for everyone. And I have to tell loislane91 that while i see your point I also ask you to look at the other side of the coin. Help your drivers be better husbands when they are home remind them of their partnership. Please don't take sides. Being the spouse left home is not an easy job. I have to tell you my man calls me in frustration because his disbatcher screwed up his loads again and now has cost him a 14 hr day versus the 10 hr day he was hoping for, instead of yelling at his disbatcher. So when I whine because he is gonna miss our 5 children opening thier gifts on Christmas and I have to explain to them why... I some how hope I get my time to vent. Because we both know he wants to be there just as much as I wish i could fix the disbatching mistake and make his day better and shorter. Neal and I always say we take the good with the bad and hope they equal each other out.


PatrickSia on Connecting on Twitter: How to Create Your Own Twitter Group on 2nd, Dec 2010

Great! I think I will try it out...


sjtubrazy on The Best Way to Lose Weight Quickly on 18th, Nov 2010

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for How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 25th, Feb 2011

Dear BVictoria: Thanks for your input. While I understand your POV....being married 2 a driver is no different than being married to a pilot, a soldier, a touring musician or any other person with a career that involves extensive travel. Furthermore, not everyone can afford nor has what it takes to obtain a 9-5 or shiftwork position. While the entire family has to deal with the issues, you seem to come from a place of blaming the driver for everything just because they choose a profession that will hopefully support their family. No, it's not an ideal career choice. No, it's never easy on the kids, nor the spouse at home.

I'm sorry if you feel that my article tends to trivialize the sacrifices made it home. That is definitely NOT the spirit in which it was written. Many drivers' spouses got thrown into this life with no instruction manual, no support group and nowhere to get advice. I simply wanted to put this out there mainly for those that come after..who don't have a clue as to how to proceed. It was not meant as a full-fledged treatise of the topic.

No one has the ""perfect"" marriage or family, regardless of the professions worked to support the family. We're all kind of swimming out there without flotation devices.....and even though it might seem trite or useless to you, to someone who's never been here before, it just might give them some insight.

It was in no way solely focused on doing everything for the driver...it was focused on learning how to live and even be 'somewhat' happy within a marriage of this nature. We can't control anything but ourselves, period. You're free to hold on to your anger over what your spouse chose to do for a living. Just as I'm free to know that my spouse is working hard in his profession because it is his goal in life, as stated by him, to give us both a better life.

Thanks again,

Mi.


for Write for Success with Constant Content on 10th, Jun 2010

Thanks, KyleeAnn :) There are numerous buyer requests for articles sent out every day, so there's never a shortage of ideas to write on....or you can create your own stuff. Enjoy, if you decide to sign up over there!!


for How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 30th, May 2010

Hi Kathy. Sorry your situation seems to be circling the toidy. :( All I can do is share my own experience. You have to decide for yourself what you are happy with...and if you are nothing but miserable, perhaps its time to go down a new path? We've had a tremendous share of ups and downs. Just because they are truck drivers doesn't mean they are all the way mature. I know what it means to look so very forward to him coming home, shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc...and then he's late and can't even call. Part of it is me creating unrealistic expectations, part of it is lack of consideration on his part. But most of that is in the past. You have to communicate. The thing that has helped me most is realizing that I cannot control anyone else's behaviors, comments, thoughts or reactions but my own. If you're not willing to put up with his 'scheduling', then you need to say so, and work towards a compromise or whatever else comes out of it. Don't wait for it to change on its own, make it change or make other changes. You have to choose YOU.....even if he doesn't, when you choose YOU, then YOU can make life what you want it to be. XOXO Take care.


for How to be Happily Married to a Truck Driver on 13th, Feb 2010

Dear Loislane, you have my express permission to share this with your drivers and whomever else. Would love credit, however, if you share the article online. You can use the "Republish Article" link, if you want to publish this on your company website or blogs. There's a fine line, or rather flip side, to the nagging, needy, whining wife-however.....that's the driver who forgets that marriage is a partnership....and comes home only when they feel like it.....get involved in less than faithful activities, and live like they are single even when they do come home. The wives also need love, understanding and encouragement :) It all takes work on both parts..... Glad you enjoyed the article. Hope it will be of some help to someone else, as well! xo


for Hearty Healthy Chicken & Spinach Penne on 5th, Oct 2009

Sorry, Deb. I would say "come over for dinner" but that'd be a BEET of a walk!! Try it sometime!! It's easy and FAST, I promise!


for How to Buy Quality Loose Tea for the First Time on 29th, Aug 2009

Hi Brian...found you because you commented on my Twitter Group article. Sorry it's taken me so long to get back, Before Bukisa implemented the comment notification emails, I didn't check...:( Gorgeous intro primer into choosing loose teas....you could take what JamesDeVere said, and create a sequel....perhaps go into the different groupings (by nationality, color, plant [flower, herb, etc.]), so that the novice loose-tea freak will know where to even begin, even at the research....


for Hearty Healthy Chicken & Spinach Penne on 2nd, Mar 2009

Thanks Kate! Glad you enjoyed it! I love your avatar pic, btw :) It's gorgeous!


for Protecting the Tools of the Trade: How Fiber Artists Can Care for Their Hands on 14th, Jan 2009

Thanks for reading, ncgirl3571! I love to sew, but just don't have the room or the time to get into it lately. Maybe it will be something to take on during this new year!! I wish you much success as you get further into it!! :)


for Protecting the Tools of the Trade: How Fiber Artists Can Care for Their Hands on 14th, Jan 2009

Thank you, Beeline, for the link! I'm sorry I didn't see your comment sooner. I will be updating my blog (stitchwitch.today.com) soon, and will definitely give you shouts! I learned alot about working with fabrics and yarns when I worked for JoAnn Fabrics. I suffered many a reaction to the chemicals and dyes. I look forward to perusing your site. I don't quilt, but I am in awe of all those who do!! :)


for Protecting the Tools of the Trade: How Fiber Artists Can Care for Their Hands on 14th, Jan 2009

Staysik, I found the Benadryl lotion in the pharmacy section....If you don't find it by the pills, it may also be with medicated lotions. Thanks for reading!



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