300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.

300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.  In the past, It was assumed that only women and children were able to be abused, the reason is simple enough, a man is stronger than a women, we spent many years trying to get information about women and children abuse out, but we may have forgotten about the men that go through abuse, through a woman’s hands, Rather it be yelling, cussing, physical, or sexual abuse it does happen. Why don’t many men report abusive relationships? Many men don’t repot abusive relationships out of fear of being laughed at or ridiculed, for allowing a woman to do these thing, another reason that men don’t report the abuse is because there aren’t many resources for them, men that have had the willpower to report it have been told that it was not that big of a deal. There has been very little investment in resources to address and understand the issues of domestic abuse and violence against men.  In most cases, the actual physical damage inflicted by men is so much greater than the actual physical harm inflected by women.   Why don’t many men do anything to prevent the abuse? Some men don’t believe in hitting a woman no matter what the circumstances are.  If the police showed up to quell a domestic problem, even if the entire time she was the aggressor, you know who is going to jail, right? She might be off to jail as well, but if the man does something as simple as trying to restrain his girl who is physically abusing him, the act of holding her down will instantly send him to jail. It is a sad truth that many men deal with on a daily basis.  The top 6 reasons,  Why men won’t leave an abusive relationship. Shame:  What will my friends, family, colleagues and neighbors think? What will people think if they knew I let a woman beat up on me? It's a private matter - it belongs in the family.  Self-Worth: I probably deserved it. This is the best I deserve.  Denial:  It's not that bad. All I have to do is leave the house until she cools down.  Reluctance to give Up the Good:  If people got to know her, they'd see what a creative, or loving, or wonderful person she is. Inertia:  It's too hard to do anything. I'm not ready for that much change in my life Habit: I'm used to life the way it is now. Fear of having a 911 call turned around:  If a man is being battered and trying to protect the kids, and he calls 911, all too frequently he is the one who ends up being arrested. At a minimum, he may experience problems getting the police to believe that he's been assaulted or that he needs police help. "Men are also less likely to call the police, even when there is injury, because, like women, they feel shame about disclosing family violence. But for many men, the shame is compounded by the shame of not being able to keep their wives under control. Among this group, a "real man" would be able to keep her under control. Other reasons why men won’t leave, Lack of Resources, Lack of Finances and Economic Reality, Children, Feelings of Guilt, Promises of Reform, Sex-role Conditioning, Religious Beliefs and Values, Societal Disbelief Concerning Battered Men, Love for Spouse.  I am ready to leave, now what?  Have a journal of when the abuse happens, and the form of abuse, If any of your friends have witnessed the abuse, find out if they will back you up, If you have a conversation with the abuser, Tape record it.  Have a plan and enough money in the bank for at least 6 months, There are not many resources for men in violent relationships. Don’t leave with her around as this may put your life in danger, and she may even get more violent then she has been in the past and possibly even try to kill you. Get a restraining order against her, as soon as possible, And the best thing you can do is to get counseling. National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1 (800) 799 – SAFE                                                                       National Child Abuse Hotline: 1 (800) 4 - A - CHILD

300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend. 

Why don’t many men report abusive relationships?

Many men don’t repot abusive relationships out of fear of being laughed at or ridiculed, for allowing a woman to do these thing, another reason that men don’t report the abuse is because there aren’t many resources for them, men that have had the willpower to report it have been told that it was not that big of a deal. There has been very little investment in resources to address and understand the issues of domestic abuse and violence against men.  In most cases, the actual physical damage inflicted by men is so much greater than the actual physical harm inflected by women.  

Why don’t many men do anything to prevent the abuse?

Some men don’t believe in hitting a woman no matter what the circumstances are. 

If the police showed up to quell a domestic problem, even if the entire time she was the aggressor, you know who is going to jail, right? She might be off to jail as well, but if the man does something as simple as trying to restrain his girl who is physically abusing him, the act of holding her down will instantly send him to jail. It is a sad truth that many men deal with on a daily basis. 

The top 6 reasons, 

Why men won’t leave an abusive relationship.

Shame:  What will my friends, family, colleagues and neighbors think? What will people think if they knew I let a woman beat up on me? It's a private matter - it belongs in the family. 

Self-Worth: I probably deserved it. This is the best I deserve. 

Denial:  It's not that bad. All I have to do is leave the house until she cools down. 

Reluctance to give Up the Good:  If people got to know her, they'd see what a creative, or loving, or wonderful person she is. Inertia:  It's too hard to do anything. I'm not ready for that much change in my life

Habit: I'm used to life the way it is now.

Fear of having a 911 call turned around:  If a man is being battered and trying to protect the kids, and he calls 911, all too frequently he is the one who ends up being arrested. At a minimum, he may experience problems getting the police to believe that he's been assaulted or that he needs police help.

"Men are also less likely to call the police, even when there is injury, because, like women, they feel shame about disclosing family violence. But for many men, the shame is compounded by the shame of not being able to keep their wives under control. Among this group, a "real man" would be able to keep her under control.

Other reasons why men won’t leave,

Lack of Resources, Lack of Finances and Economic Reality, Children, Feelings of Guilt, Promises of Reform, Sex-role Conditioning, Religious Beliefs and Values, Societal Disbelief Concerning Battered Men, Love for Spouse. 

I am ready to leave, now what? 

Have a journal of when the abuse happens, and the form of abuse, If any of your friends have witnessed the abuse, find out if they will back you up, If you have a conversation with the abuser, Tape record it. 

Have a plan and enough money in the bank for at least 6 months, There are not many resources for men in violent relationships.

Don’t leave with her around as this may put your life in danger, and she may even get more violent then she has been in the past and possibly even try to kill you.

Get a restraining order against her, as soon as possible,

And the best thing you can do is to get counseling.

National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1 (800) 799 – SAFE                                                                                           National Child Abuse Hotline: 1 (800) 4 - A - CHILD