Warning Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be a Loser

You may be in a long-term relationship or you may have just entered a new exclusive relationship. Every relationship has a few problems here and there, but some relationships are simply unhealthy and not good for your well-being. Some signs that your boyfriend is a loser may be very obvious and some may be a bit more subtle. Too often the signs are overlooked in hopes he will change or you might be unsure of just how bad your boyfriend is. There are some signs to look for that will give you a clue if your boyfriend is a loser and it’s better to move on.

Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be a Loser

One of the first signs to look at, to determine if your boyfriend is a loser, is to examine your reactions by being with him. Are you constantly on edge or afraid to be yourself? Have you developed anxiety or physical symptoms since being with him? Do you feel used or feel the relationship is one-sided? Do you often feel the need to escape, but aren't sure why? Maybe your boyfriend is a loser and toxic to your life, your well-being.

Did he attach himself very soon? Losers often attach themselves early on and have no idea how to "develop" healthy relationships. The loser wants something quick and often gets out of the relationship just as quickly, when they find someone else that suits their agenda, better. While their words may appear they are committed, they don't have the emotional maturity to commit.

Does he make fun of you and pass it off as "just a joke"? Losers like to feel superior by cutting others down. Someone that truly loves you and is emotionally healthy won't feel the need to cut you or anyone else down.

Does he try to isolate you? A loser wants you for his own and doesn't want anyone or anything getting in the way of his needs. His focus is on his needs, not your happiness. Does he refuse to meet your friends or family? That isn't fair to you. He'll drive a wedge between you and those you love and that's his purpose. He doesn't want anyone to interfere. A good partner wants to be part of your life, not separate you from the life you've always known.

Would he rather collect a government check or unemployment instead of working? Very well might be a sign of a mooch - someone that doesn't take pride in earning what they receive. He'll mooch off of you as long as you allow it.

Is his idea of quality entertainment in the form of frequent drug use or alcohol? A loser often uses these crutches because they've never learned how to enjoy life without them. He'll be married to the bottle or drugs long before he's married to you.

Does he blame you, the world for everything that goes wrong in his life? He can't accept responsibility and it's easier to lay the blame elsewhere instead of looking in the mirror to see his own reflection.

Does he always have to have his way and never willing to negotiate? This doesn't make a good partner and you'll always be short-changed. He'll keep gaining while you keep losing until you are drained.

Does he spend more time on the computer, with buddies or other activities than he spends with you? A loser doesn't place you first. His priority will be elsewhere and you'll always feel 2nd best, if that.

Does he make promises he doesn't keep? Of course he does because he's a loser and rarely backs up his words with action. Honesty isn't part of his vocabulary because his life is built around deceit, manipulation and his wants and needs.

Does he put other women's physical appearance on a pedestal while making you feel like the ugliest person in the world? He lives in a fantasy world and probably couldn't get any of the women he talks about, but in the process doesn't cherish what he has - YOU! He thinks the grass is greener on the other side and often steps to that other side while leaving you behind.

Do you find yourself turning to friends or family when in need of support? A boyfriend should be there for you, but a loser is the last person you feel comfortable going to when you need support, comfort and understanding. He doesn't know how to give. He takes.

Is he secretive? Does he hide his going-ons from you or do you catch him in lies? An emotionally healthy and honest person doesn't feel the need to hide things and especially from someone they are in a relationship with. They are an open book, transparent, so that the relationship, your feelings towards him, are built on truth, not a lie.

Does he often compare you to his mother or other females that he's been involved with? Do you often hear comments that your cooking or whatever is never as good as his mother's? Do you hear that his ex-girlfriends were better at everything than you are? Maybe he needs to go back to his mother or his ex's. He's with you and that should be his focus. A loser often lives in the past so much that he doesn't allow himself or you to live in the present.

No one is perfect, but if you are seeing one or more of these signs on a continuous basis, you need to think about why you are with this guy.  If your boyfriend is a loser, think hard about why you allow yourself to settle for someone who brings so little into your life when you could have someone that greatly enhances your life.