How to Stop Having an Affair with a Married Man

Any relationship can have it's ups and downs. Real relationships that don't play out on A&E or lifetime dramas, perfect for being stories played out in television dramas aren't always picturesque. When it comes time, you or your partner may decide together or separately that it's time to end the relationship. Whatever the cause, when it's time to stop seeing and dating a married man, it should work like ending any other relationship and some events can have more consequences than your more common dating relationships.

Hopefully either your man or yourself aren't obsessed with one another. If that's the case the best thing to do is work out what issues which may have arisen from this obsession and are the probably cause of it. Jealousy or anger are driving forces behind obsessions that generally have negative connotations to interactions and behaviors. The best way to work these issues out is to try and communicate about your feelings and thoughts about how you feel as well as what you think about relationship, as well as yourself and he as individuals.

To begin to end the relationship, begin to set some distance between you and him. Boundaries may be drawn by you to slowly move away from him and how tempting it is to you to see each other is based upon a majority of factors that are unique to each relationship. Relationships are relationships, whether physical relationships for sexual and friendly comfort, loving relationships it doesn't matter if the situation is typed as an affair or not. Sometimes attachments and even caring or loving may appear in physical relationships that were not the intention in the relationship. To find reason to be able to distance yourself and depart from the relationship, consider how this relationship has affected your life and even in some positive manners or small negative manners it may be detracting from your life and who you really are.

Do you have the same goals that you did before the beginning of the relationship? Ask yourself if you're being used or if you're using him. Think about if you've been neglecting aspects of your life and those goals that you have in the short and long term and will have to give up things to continue to be with him. Avoiding friends, sneaking about in other towns or cities, staying in the house or at a hotel every time you and he want some alone time are factors to think about. While the excitement and thrill of these necessary precautions can invigorate and being exciting, ask yourself, “Is this type of excitement worth lying to my family, my friends and avoiding my life as it was before I started seeing him?”

If he calls you, e-mails you, sends you SMS messages or leaves voice mails, avoid him. He'll know you're avoiding him and it will likely be painful and hard for both of you, probably very hard but this time you're spending not interacting with him is for yourself and for you only. Realize that this relationship can lead to many things; divorce and his expecting you to replace his wife, if he has children the sadness and later outrage that they might suffer because of the relationship becoming known or causing a problem for you both. It may take time but you can do it.

In situations like this, emotions and tensions are high and stresses like these have led to abuse of all parties involved. Maybe he will leave his wife for you but if you see any of the typical warning signs of aggression, be cautious and careful. If you feel threatened physically or intimidated about the surety of your future, remember that women sometimes are forced to seek help from women's shelters for abuse and that you may have to take matters further and eventually seek restraining orders. If he becomes obsessed he may show up at your employer and god knows what his wife may do! Move on and don't provoke any negative response to your actions then or in the future regardless of how terrible the breakup was. Do it for yourself and your future, get back into the swing of life with old and new friends and see someone single, it'll do wonders for you.