Tips for Success for Going from Dating to Marriage

Some people compare a long-term dating situation to marriage. Although they may have similarities, in truth, they are often world's apart. Dating the same partner for a long period of time doesn't have the same type of responsibilities that marriage does. When you're dating you may see your partner a few times a week as opposed to seeing them every day of your life and for a lifetime. If you are thinking of marriage, it's important to look at your relationship realistically to see if you are prepared for the transition from dating to marriage.

While dating, a lot of time is spent having fun, often in surrounds of the external - movies, dining out, adventurous travel, etc. This can blind some to the reality of marriage and sometimes to the reality of who their partner really is. You can have fun with a lot of people, but who will be by your side in the face of adversity?

Marriage can easily include fun and enjoyment, but it also involves the reality of bills, illness, household chores, personal habits and a deeper and lasting commitment. If this is the right person, you won't feel you are settling, but are enhancing your life. A successful marriage is built on a solid foundation. If you don't have a solid foundation while dating, the chance for a successful marriage is slim.

Tips for Success from Dating to Marriage

The best relationship starts with the one you have with yourself. Be the best "you" before entering a marriage.

It's crucial to go slow and get to know the person very well before saying "I do". Your investment in this time will pay off. It takes more than loving someone to have a successful marriage, but genuinely liking the person.

Clearly know why you have the desire to marry this person. Marrying for the wrong reasons will eventually backfire. Don't confuse lust with love. Lust is about you. Love is about the other person and unfolding yourself to another. Don't marry for the thrill of a wedding. The wedding only lasts for a day. Marriage should be for a lifetime.

Communicate openly and honestly. Build your relationship based on transparency, so there are no doubts, nor distrust. Be an open book to your partner. Know when to listen and know when to talk.

Know your partner's expectations, their belief system, what they accept and will not accept within a marriage. Make your needs and wants well known.

Put your relationship first. Don't allow outsiders, outside interests or work to take priority. Make sure your partner knows they are number one in your life.

Don't make your partner feel trapped by being too clingy. Allow personal space and have your own interests and respect that they will have theirs. Togetherness is beautiful, but we all need space at times.

Treat your partner with respect and kindness. Acknowledge the qualities that makes them who you fell in love with. Be supportive and encouraging, building them up. Be by their side as a shelter when they fall.

Make time for each other, no matter how chaotic life sometimes gets. Don't take each other for granted.

Create the type of relationship you want. Make a commitment to making it last.

Realize that no one is perfect, but someone can be perfect for you. If this is the right person for you, every fiber in your being will resound YES!