Wearing Diapers to Work

Diaper_Debbie said... on September 13th, 2009 at 1:07 PM

Hi, Cindy, Just thought that you might like to know that it is not only in the US that many adults suffer from incontinence, and I believe that it is also on the increase here in the UK too. I also think that it is in fact far more common than is generally known, because even in this enlightened day and age, most people are much too embarrassed to admit it. But I doubt very much that manufacturers would make incontinence products if it were something that few people suffer, or if it were on the decrease. Like you, I have had problems with incontinence all my life, although from the tone of your message it seems that you are totally incontinent and have no control at all. If that is the case, you have my sympathy, and I admire you greatly for being able to be so open and honest about it. When I was younger (and by that I mean when I was a child/teenager) it bothered me greatly, but I have over the years learned to live with it, and I no longer try to hide it from friends and acquaintances, who I have to say I find, in general at least, mostly sympathetic. Although I myself am not totally incontinent, I have never become dry at night – I always wet in my sleep – and I have limited control during the day; I am unable hold my urine for more than a short time (compared to most people, anyway). Consequently, accidents are frequent. For that reason, I too have used diapers (or nappies, as we call them this side of the pond) all my life. No doctor or specialist (and I've seen many!) has ever been able to explain why I wet myself so frequently, and certainly none has ever come up with a cure. Personally, I believe I simply have a weak bladder (or at least, the muscles that should enable me to control it are weak), and no amount of Kegel exercises have ever helped. Medications and alarms have also had little or no effect. As I'm now in my 40's, I very much doubt whether I will ever be cured, and I long ago accepted my need for nappies. I wear one more or less constantly, especially when I'm away from my home, and always to work. Although I ensure that I wear clothing that effectively ‘hides’ my nappy, for instance a full skirt, or roomy trousers (pants), many of my colleagues are aware of my need for protective underwear. And of course, as you say, there can be certain advantages; some of our meetings can go on for a long time, and some of my colleagues had near misses when struggling to keep their bladders under control! One of my closer friends (also a work colleague) has actually admitted that she is somewhat jealous of the fact that I rarely need to use the toilet, unless I have to change my nappy! All of my relatives, of course, know about my problem, and do not have any issues with it; they just treat me normally. And most of my friends and acquaintances also know, (because I don't try to hide it) and it is in general accepted and ignored. I've now come to look upon my bladder problems in a similar manner to anything else that can go wrong with the human body. If one has poor eyesight, then one wears spectacles or contact lenses; if one has poor hearing, one wears a hearing aid; if one has a broken arm or leg, one wears a splint or plaster. It just so happens that my bladder doesn't work properly, so I wear a nappy. It's no big deal; it no longer bothers me in the least, nor has it done for many years now. I've simply given up worrying about it, and learned to live with it. Debbie.

chasteone247 said... on June 29th, 2009 at 10:37 PM

Hi Cindy - I enjoyed reading this and your other articles. Your experiences with wearing diapers to work are very similar to my own. Please feel free to write to me any time at padcon1973(at)gmail.com Best, Pat

Soundwave13 said... on April 14th, 2009 at 3:03 AM

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Very well written post. I am not completely incontinent, but I couldn't imagine not wearing diapers anymore. As you pointed out in multiple posts, it has its advantages. My experiences at work while diapered are almost totally positive. I have been working two jobs 5 days a week for more then 3 years now. My day job is around people many years older then I (I'm late 20s) and not one person has said a word to me about being diapered...if they even noticed at all. My day job attire is business casual which is almost always heavy enough clothing to hide a diaper in. My night job is at a school among people my age. A few of them are a bit more nosy and sometimes ask why I take my laptop bag with me to the bathroom. This is where one has to be cautious about what you say. Only the people I really trust know that I wear diapers. Usally a quip about making a phone call to my handlers at the CIA (or other secret organization) keeps the people I don't trust from asking any more questions...LOL. Not one of my friends has ever asked me why I wear diapers. I think confidence as a lot to do with it....people naturally want to know secrets and if you are insecure about something and are hiding it, people will keep after you until they find out. If you confident about yourself and aren't bothered by something as trivial as wearing a diaper...people will accept it and will move their attention to something more important. Sorry for the long post here...but I just wanted to reinforce your last two paragraphs with my own experiences. I look forward to reading more of your insights.