How to Determine if a Relationship Is Already Dead

Breakup is never easy but the hardships of maintaining a dead relationship alive are certainly not a better option. As sad as it is, breakup is part of life and one should know when he or she has to walk out of a dead relationship.

Do You Still Feel Love for Him or Her?

It might be obvious that this is the first item to check but for many people lack of love is not a reason to worry about the health of their relationship. But when you feel nothing towards your partner, or even worse – if you despise him or her, then this relationship has died long ago and it makes no sense to stay only because you are sorry for him or her or because it is just convenient for you to keep the status quo. Actually, you are not even friends with benefits, you are just enemies.

Do You Get Enough from the Relationship? Does Your Partner Get Enough, Too?

Love is a game of give and take. Well, you shouldn't measure what you give and what you get to the last detail but if you are giving more than you are getting, you are just making a parasite happy. Give and take in a relationship is also not measured in terms of money, though many people will be happy even only by “earning” enough from their partner. Give and take is more about wants and needs and if you feel that your needs are not fulfilled by your partner or that he or she is selfishly using you, then you should plug the cable to the relationship.

Does Your Partner Have More Positive Qualities than Negative?

Many people are desperate to get a lover and they are willing to hook up with anybody, who volunteers, no matter if he or she is good or not. Being that desperate is bad and nobody, who is not a loser, will accept this. It is true that nobody is perfect but if the main “virtue” of your partner is that he or she can lie well or steals without being caught, this is not a healthy relationship to maintain.

Do You Still Share the Same Likes and Dislikes

Though you can't have exactly the same tastes for everything, if your likes and dislikes are very different, this causes trouble. Common interests are vital to a healthy relationship and if you don't have them anymore because for instance you have just grown apart, this is a death sentence for your relationship. If you live together with your partner, then your relationship is a daily torture.

How About Secrets from Each Other?

Similarly to likes and dislikes, it is not possible (nor recommendable) to share absolutely everything with your partner but if you or your partner are hiding important stuff from you – i.e. money, friends, whom he or she sees, etc., this is a sign that your relationship is not alive. The Mr. and Mrs. Smith movie, where each of the spouses doesn't know the job of the other, is not a vital model in life. In some cases you might even be shocked to find your lover's profile on a dating site you are visiting!

Sure, there are many more points to consider when you are evaluating your relationship but if the “No”s are more than the “Yes” to the above question, this should ring a bell if it is good to stay in this relationship or be single.