How to Dating Tips that will help make it work for you

Step1
Confidence

When you are confident people will have more trust in you and you're abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE! Be confident in you're dating, but not too bold. You're partner will want someone quietly in control, but not too controlling, this will put up red flags, Some that you're not wanting. Red flags can put you in a category that you may not want.
Step2
Be Realistic

Being Realistic, Not everyday you come across the love you're dreams. Hollywood makes it so easy to trap these thoughts. It is wise to listen to you're heart, mind, body, and soul. Do not use you're eyes. Even Hollywood relationships never last. They are only attracted to what they see on the outside. Why do you think these relationships never last. It happens time and time again. And most the time , the ones that are hurt are the kids. Forced to live with separated moms and dads.
Step3
Proper Planning

Set up realistic Goals that will help you achieve you're goals. Write down things you'd like to know about the other person. Write down or memorize or better yet try to be natural. Try to get what you're looking for from you're heart. When you speak from you're heart, may sound a bit boring to guys , but you must be like a Romeo, You will see it in her eye' s. But, Don't over do it. It's wise to just let it all out. Next try thinking of things that you could do without. Remember, God did not make us the same in everyway. So instead of spending so much time trying to change someone, Better yet let some things pass. Yes take a stand when you believe you are right about something. But, if it is something you can live without, LET IT GO!!!
Step4
Red Flags

Learn about what red flags to look for. Security for yourself is and should be the utmost importance. Especially if you're dating someone from the NET. Some Red Flag's may be: Is He or she a Pot Head, Alcoholics, abusive, tempered, lies, cheats, pure hate, (Check his or her criminal background) tries to force sex on u the first date. Remember, can you imagine you go out on a Date with him or her and you just keep thinking that there is something you're missing. But, the good side of you let's it slide. You end up getting married. Have kids and suddenly you're new gift to the world you're 4 year old comes in and tells you something really really dark. Like she's been getting molested by the man you thought was you're prince charming. My My you was right all along. If you had checked his background. Maybe you could have caught it.

Or, let's say, you date this HOT HOT beautiful girl. Us guy's are so blinded. Especially when you see that perfect 10. Guy's tend not to see the dark side. Cause we are not even thinking about the consequences most guy's are thinking more naughty things :) . Imagine if you married this girl. And all of a sudden, you wake up someday and find out that she took all her clothes moved out and dried out you're bank account and just abandons you with 3 kids to never show up again. Red flag's are important. Go with you're gut. Investigate those feelings... DO NOT IGNORE THEM!!!
Step5
You're appearance,

It is common since to know that if you are serious about starting a relationship or dating, taking care of yourself and looking you're best, is extremely important. Get into shape!!! I mean, if you are really serious then at least try to get into shape. If you look like a slob, don't expect to score any points. A relationship is a 50/50. It is suppose to be. Doesn't the one you are trying to start an ever lasting relationship with you deserve that?
I mean put yourself in there shoe' s. Could you imagine having someone that smelled like the sewer, coming up to you asking you for a date. All the dating articles in the world won't help you. If you look like a slob and you don't at least try to polish up. You're dating is doomed.
However, if you look you're best to dress and become fit. Then it shows class and it shows confidence. It says you're important to me enough to where I can respect you so much make myself look fabulous for you...
Step6
Be Respectful,

Respect is a very important tool. You do not show respect by talking on you're cell phone. Respect is not smoking or getting waisted while you're eating lunch dinner or whatever. Being rude to her or him or to other's while you're on a date is not respect.
Not speaking or showing affection is not respect. Guy's getting her pregnant or even any sex before you're married is not respect. Instead, to show affection, hold her hands. If she kisses you well let it be. But, DO NOT let it go any further....
Talking about you're ex is rude and it brings in baggage. Letting friends interrupt you're date is not respectful. Don't allow friend to interrupt you while you're with your new date. Yes introduce, but, let them go on there ways. This date is for u and her not for friends. The date your on should be the main focus. Friends will take that away from you.
Step7
Honesty is the best policy,

Don't lie, be open about what your looking for with her or him. If you got kids then let them know. You should make a golden rule to never hide anything from each other. Trust is a very important part of a long lasting relationship. It is better to know now than later in life. I'm not saying to write a book, but if your serious then by all mean's. She will want to know. You want things to talk about. Well there you go. But, be fun with it. OPEN UP!!! Don't give out everything. If you are faced with so many different questions then there is something wrong. Baby steps, slowwwww down. If your faced with some many questions then you start to suspect something is strange with so many questions. You wouldn't give out your social security or bank account number to a complete stranger would you?
Step8
Have Fun

The point in having a date is to have fun with each other. It doesn't have to be dangerous either. Make getting to know each other fun. No movie's!!! The point of date's is to get to know one another. Movie's are great, but you don't learn anything from each other. Casual lunch, coffee, walking threw the park or beach. Anywhere as long as it is an opportunity to have fun and getting to know one another. Guy's if you take her to play game's. LET HER WIN!!! Make each other laugh. Put in the effort in getting to know one another. Remember getting to know one another, does not only have an effect on each other, but your kids or future kids as well...
Step9
Don't Rush

I know there is a saying that you only live once. But to take it to the extreme as to say you should rush thing's is completely wrong, especially when your dating. Dating is a way for you to get to know one another. A way to know if you would like to be with this person for the rest of your life. Someone that could be the father or mother to your future kids. A way to find out what can or can't be put up with. Should you give him or her a chance. A wise choice in dating, is to take your time. If you've learned to be respectful of yourself, then you owe it to yourself to take your time. Don't just go out on 1 date have sex and oh my get married have kids and to begin to think you will be happy. That is Hollywood and it never works out. Time and time again we hear the divorce rate being so high do to that practice that I just explained.

Sometime's it maye take 5 to 6 date's. But, then does it guarantee success. Well, if you've done your home work then it might. But, it is better to take your time. Go on several dates. Maybe you like one guy better than the other. Don't make your dates so serious. Remember its a date to have fun and get to know one another.
Step10
Compliments

I almost forgot, compliment' s go a long long way to tell someone that they are pleased with how you look and feel. This goes for both the guys and the ladies. Now it is possible to over do it. You could make yourself sound desperate. But, if you do make a compliment, make it real. Say, looking into her as she is smiling and laughing at you being so silly. You say you are so beautiful when you smile. Or tell you're man that he is looking hot in those nice styling suite he's wearing. Yes us guys like those compliments as well. Being creative is the key.
Step11
Finally, I don't claim to be an expert in all this dating. But, common sense in what I have written are valid points. I don't have college to write all this that come from my heart. But, if it helps even just 1 person then I did well.
Remember, Dating is a challenge. And it is an important decision that deals with human emotions. It is something that can be a bit scary. But once you've tried it out, you will enjoy it. Not every date will be successful. I don't care how much you prepare. But, please remember there are many many good people out there. You just have to dedicate yourself and do it. If you sincerly want to be in a long happy relationship then it takes a commitment. Leave your pride and your selfish ways at the door at home. Become the princess or prince charming that you yourself are looking for, use this towards the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Take the time to learn from one another. We are different and we cannot change each other, so stop trying. Everyone deserves to be in a happy relationship. Study be safe and be kind to those you want to be with. Take care of each other with love, dedication, and respect. That's what it's all about. Learn to feel with your heart, mind, and soul. Enough with emotional abuse. Allow you're evil ways to erase itself from your family and loved one's.
Those I have met that have had a relationship for 80 years and more did not survive with hitting each other. But, they learned to love and respect one another and to let those silly fights go, by ignoring the bad words and replacing them with kind loving words. Come home to your wife and kids first. They should be the first most important people, before all other things in your life. Come home everyday from work, straight into the arms of your wife and kids, and tell them everyday how much they mean to you. Don't ignore what matters to you most simply to get to the tv, movie, or bar. The ones you love deserve it. To those that don't have any self respect and honor for themselves or for there family, then you deserve what you get. We must be accountable for our own actions. We each have an obligation to take care of our families and loved ones.
Ladies take care of you hard working man.. Believe me, it isn't difficult. If he truly is out there working to provide. Then he must be credited for it. Show him some LOVE! And he will love you back. Thank You for you're time and GOOD LUCK!!!

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