Are Blind Dates Really that Bad?

Most everyone has gone out on a blind date or been offered a blind date at least once in their lifetime. Some people have horror stories to tell after their blind date. Some people have good experiences to tell about. So why does the term "blind date" have such a connotation of desperation and disappointment to it? Are blind dates really that bad?

It doesn't have to be that way - the person may actually be nice to spend time with, even if there isn't potential for a relationship. Maybe the problem with many blind dates is the expections people have. They set the bar too high expecting to meet their soul mate, instead of simply enjoying meeting someone new.

When one hears the term blind date they may conjure up thoughts of a physically unattractive person or a person who cannot get a date themselves. While this could be true in some cases, there are other reasons for people to go on blind dates. Some people are very busy with work and don't have a lot of time to socialize. Others may be shy and have difficulty meeting people on their own, but do well when set up on a one-to-one blind date.

Blind dates don't always have to turn into a horrible experience, however. There are different levels of individual traits in any and all us that serve to attract a member of the opposite sex. We may find someone whom we think on the outside is quite an attractive person, but they come across as intellectually boring or self-centered or even disrespectful and rude.

You might find a plain looking person aesthetically appealing - to a point, and they turn out to have an amazing personality or they have a generous heart and a kind spirit.

It may be, that a lot of "introverted" people are well-suited to the "blind date" scenario. The wall-flowers who have trouble meeting people on their own may appreciate someone playing matchmaker.

Blind dates are usually arranged through well-meaning friends or so we would like to think. It has been known for people to arrange a blind date between two people as a "practical joke".

If you find yourself in a blind date situation, try to arrange to have "the date" in the company of your friends and/or at a very busy venue. Ask yourself...can you trust your source, the person who is fixing you up on a blind date? If so, it's worth giving it a try.

Even though you may not be compatible with your blind date, you might have an enjoyable time with a new person and open yourself to a new experience. Have realistic expectations and learn to enjoy the experience for what it is. Many people have ended up saying "I do" from the results of a blind date and a trusted matchmaker and that's usually when they went in to the experience with realistic and not hyped up expectations.