The Floozy Who Tried to or Succeeded in Stealing Your Husband

Approximately 60% of all men cheat on their wives.  80% of them get caught cheating, and about 65% remain with their wives.  This article is about the mistress, the other woman, or the floozy, whichever you prefer.  It will not try to persuade the reader to sympathize with the mistress.  It will merely illustrate who she may be.

It is completely irrelevant where she met him (nowadays most people have affairs with a coworker).  It is not even relevant whether or not she was aware of his marital status when she got involved with him.  What matters is her decision to remain with him and continue the affair even though he is another woman’s husband. 

A mistress usually falls into one of the categories below.  

Dumb, in Love Mistress

She usually has low self esteem, is emotionally and intelligently weak and does not benefit in any way from a relationship with a married man.  He visits her for intercourse, she is essentially his piece on the side and she mistakenly interprets that to be love.  She falls for all his excuses: “I miss kissing you and holding you so much that I can’t have sex with my wife.  That is the only reason we always end up in bed when we are together.  I am so attracted to you, that I can’t contain myself.  Kiss me…”  The dumb, in love mistress allows herself to be used, until her married lover loses sexual interest in her.  If she is “dating” a wealthy man she won’t demand that he take care of her financially, and he won’t offer to do so.  She is also the lowest maintenance mistress, the easiest to please and the most wounded when the affair ends. 

Gold-Digger Mistress (may or may not be in love)

The gold-digger mistress is essentially a prostitute.  She may or may not have issues with low-self esteem and may or may not be in love with the cheating husband.  It doesn’t matter really.  What does matter is that she is materialistic above all and pacified with gifts, trips, romantic vacations, shopping trips etc.  She is the type of woman who reasons that “it’s better to get paid for it, than give it away for free.”  Though she may be looking for love, she is perfectly happy being taken care of financially until she finds Mr. Right.  In her case, money is the primary factor in the relationship and she will remain a mistress as long as she is getting paid.  Like in a business deal; both parties (married man & mistress) are happy as long as each respects the terms of the contract.  She continues to make herself available for sex, excitement and a good time while he continues to pay for it.  The affair continues until one party has had enough or wants more.  She is less wounded when the affair ends, because she has accumulated enough stuff (jewelry, clothes, money, even property) to lift her spirits.  

Wife to be Mistress

Not many husbands leave their wives for their mistress; at least not in the real world.  In the celebrity world it happens on occasion and as with any other rare occurrence it is televised, analyzed and dissected seemingly forever.  Take Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie and Jennifer Aniston as an example.  Brad Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston when he became involved with Angelina Jolie.  Angelina fits into the very last category because the married man she was seeing fell in love with her.  If a married man falls in love with another woman, his marriage is doomed.  Perhaps he won’t leave his wife immediately, but he will leave her eventually.  A married man will end his marriage to be with a woman he loves.  

The wife to be mistress may or may not be prettier, smarter, more interesting etc. than the wife.  As a matter of fact, the mistress (regardless of the category she is in) is not necessarily better or worse than the wife.  She is only different.  If however, she fits into the latter category, she is viewed by the married man as better suited to be his partner than is his wife.  The wife can protect her marriage from the first two types of mistresses, but not from the last.  

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