How to Cure Jealousy

Jealousy may be defined as the tendency to be demanding, possessive, covetous, monopolizing, protective and etcetera. Jealousy can be found in any relationship and when it exists it is not healthy for either person involved. It can exist between lovers, friends, colleagues, family members and any relationship that one may be involved. The bad part of it is that people who have this problem are usually unaware that they are jealous. This article will help you identify if you have jealous characteristics and help you can cure these tendencies.

First of all determine if you are a jealous person. You can do this by looking at the definitions above of jealousy and see if you demonstrate any of these characteristics. We have put a little questionnaire together to help you with this task. As you do these exercises be open and honest with yourself to determine if you are possessive to anyone that you are presently involved. So let’s take a few minutes to work through this together by asking your self the following questions and answering them candidly:

1.    Are you demanding in any of your relationships?  An example of this could be that you get upset when the person does not call you everyday or spend time with you.

2.    Do you find yourself possessive of another person? Let say that when they are with other persons, do you feel that they should be with you or you feel you should know where they are at all times.

3.    Do you find that you begrudge relationships of the other person to others or yearn for the person to have the same relationship with you? You think they have more fun with the other person than with you and you don’t like it.

4.    Do you try and monopolize the other person’s moves as well as their time? This may come when you try to control their moves by always making a plan that involves them whether they like it or not.

5.    Are you too protective of the other one? It is ok to be concerned about their safety but stop wanting to know where they are all of the time in the name of friendship and I am worried about your safety. These people are probably grown and can take care of themselves.

Now evaluate your results.  You know that you are jealous of another person if you answered yes to even one of the above questions; so the next thing that you need to do is learn how to find peace and happiness with in yourself in place of finding it in others. You see the other person; who you are displaying this negative attention probably doesn’t like this behavior, and pretty soon they are going to walk away from this relationship. No one wants to feel that another person is trying to possess them so it is necessary to start looking for peace and happiness within you.

 Find happiness within yourself. Some ways that you can find inner peace and happiness within is to stop being jealous and controlling of others and see your self as self sufficient because you are and you can take care of yourself and your needs. See yourself being happy without another person to control. Take control of your own self, doesn’t it feel good? If you need help feeling good about yourself then you can take time to meditate (there are classes, books and tapes available to help you in this area of meditation), take a yoga class, read books, listen to tapes and actually going to listen and see motivational speakers on topics related to self sufficiency and finding your inner peace; there are a lot of folk out there who can make suggestions that will help you.

 Know that you are a wonderful human being and you have every thing within yourself that will get you through this phase; so believe in yourself and work hard to get rid of jealousies and take control of your life so that you can be healthy and happy.

In closing if this doesn’t work after a reasonable period of time then seek the advice if a counselor. Just remember that you are one beautiful piece of work and you don’t need to be covetous in relationships so cure yourself of jealousy now.