How to Talk Dirty in Bed

Talking Dirty. As guys, we've all been introduced to dirty talk at some point in our lives, usually the early, formative years with those adult films and magazines one used to steal from one's male parent. However we come across it, talking dirty is one of the things that can add spark into a relationship and make bedtime tons more rewarding. To quote an author I read "Communication is the key to a good relationship and the secret to mind-blowing sex." I, personally, could not have put it better.

Speaking is something we take for granted, but without voice, life would be much quieter and boring. Talking dirty is more than a mere form of communication though, it's an artform, a probing device and a prelude to more intimate activities. Speaking dirty allows the speaker in implant into the head of his/her better half the things that are running through one's own head. In addition, it works as a gauge to see if the significant other would be up for a game of slap-and-tickle before just diving into it (and possibly obtaining oneself a permanent restraining order).

To start one's journey on the road to becoming a speaking in the league of Don Juan, I would suggest getting one's hands on an erotic story. These don't have to be rmoance books (bodice-busters as my own significant oher likes to call them), there are many sites on the internet that have erotic stories written by members for free perusal of the public. A little discussion with your lover will reveal any likes or dislikes they have (if you don't already know, and if you don't I suggest getting on that right away), and use those to choose an appropriate story. A read at bedtime might lead to a lot of pumelling of sheets if done right.

If you're not a confident reader, however, reading may not be the right thing for you until you get your confidence up. Even the most confident reader fumbles when they see a word mentionaing either gender's sexual paraphernalia in vivid detail. It may be a shock if you're not used to it, but keep reading to yourself, at loud if you can to gain the confidence before doing it in front of your lover. You'll be able to make a confident performance both before and during the act itself.

Foreign languages are another good way to continue pushing the buttons. There are a few European languages known as The Romantic Languages. Of these Romantic languages, I find the single most erotic is the French language. A few choices phrases in french is just the way to get one's blood up when going at it. Somehow hearing "je'taime" from your lover is more arousing than hearing a simple "I love You, even though they mean the same thing. Experiment with French Phrases and see how well they work for you. If they don't Italian is also a nice one to check out. Cassanova was Italian after all. Just be careful and know what you're saying. No matter how erotic it sounds, be sure you're whispering sweet nothings in her ear and not what you had for dinner the night before.

So there you have it, two very good methods of learning how to talk dirty in bed. I'm pretty sure after reading this you're doubting the veracity of the content herein, but trust me and try it out. I have a feeling you won't regret it.