Single parents: How education can improve your circumstances

23456 said... on March 19th, 2009 at 8:41 PM

First, the definition of single-parent families The so-called single-parent families, generally refers to either one of the parents due to death or divorce, the children only to follow his father (or mother) living, or the child's parents have died, the children with their grandfather (or grandmother and other relatives) living, said for single-parent. However, we are here referring to the single parent, there is another situation in which children both parents are alive, have not divorced, or both parents due to work or do business, not the children of long-term side, only from one side or the other relatives care of children, but also put it into the list of single-parent families. This is because children from the educational point of view, it is still "single" category. Therefore, we are referring to "single-parent families" can be called "generalized single-parent families." Two, single-parent family status of their children's education 1, sentence of death or a parent, the children belong to one party raising such home prematurely because of defects, not artificially caused by the shadow of long-term and distress over home, family members take a long time to come out from the shadows, coupled with some the heavy family burden, so that premature children have to bear the weight of life, parents and children????many, or over-indulgent, or they can not out of the mud of life, loss of confidence, no idea the children, on the growth study. My classes such as Pan ×, father sentenced, his mother was busy living, the past two years did not personally take part in parent-teacher associations, nor take the initiative to ask their children in school performance and learning of their children's education very indifferent attitude. 2, the child's parents divorce, custody of the children belong to one party, some of these families due to a heavy burden, dependent day for the mobility of life, too busy to look after their children; some because of the life of another new love and divorced his ex-wife (husband) to restructure the home, the Living a more comfortable, the children's education is also quite concerned about the demanding, but in the eyes of a child has lost the force of personality, children's treatment of home education are many remain indifferent toward. 3, some children for a living while his father to work, leaving only one person at home mother take care of the child. Mother due to the low level of education or no culture, and therefore only a child's life, as children grew older, his mother's easy to ignore preaching, and some to give up their children's education, all oblivious to all this, or can not find the Education children's methods and the way out. Such as the history of my classes and Zhai × × × ×'s home, his father work outside the home, the year with a maximum of one week, the deterioration of the marital relationship, mother and cultural levels are low, and no fixed job and income, education of their children stay at the surface and can not find the right approach, at the child made a mistake or when problems arise only tears, usually very few effective educational methods. If things continue this way, the children of their behavior also dismissive. 4, the parents are migrant workers, the children by their grandparents or other relatives take care of these families did not constitute a solid foundation, temporary guardian and child relationship between the delicate, these children difficult to obtain timely Parent warmth and care, family education did not play space. My classes such as Zhu ×, parental separation are also out by the aunt and grandmother care, lack of family warmth, and do not have proper education, the student behavioral disorders, parents are sometimes combined boxing club to no avail, even their let matters drift. 5, father to business school. Such parents are busy doing business only on the performance of very small children at the school say. Such parents at the words and put money as the top priority, the children in such an imperceptible, the general form "Books do not read does not matter, all the money goes" ideology. The formation of single-parent families are multi-faceted and dicing since my school admissions, the area's stagnant for the development of major residential areas of ethnic minorities, because of economic and cultural development is not balanced and contradictions, but also due to the impact of a variety of ideas, resulting in a large number of single-parent families have. Investigate the basis of classification statistics, single-parent home school my Senior high school students to the Department a total of 12 people, accounting for two-class 5.8%, the beginning of fifty three people, 13 percent of the total class, the beginning of the secondary 79 people, 14.5 percent of the total class, the first Grade 80 people, accounting for 17.13 percent level, single-parent families of children was increasing year by year trend. Survey showed that the formation of single-parent families generally have three main reasons: First, in order to improve the financial situation of their families to meet the daily needs of migrant workers or people doing business is increasing year by year; are two environmental impact society, the divorce rate is gradually increased; three are due to illness , disasters such as lost or abandoned by their parents. Analysis of the causes of single-parent families and family education status, single-parent children are the first step in the implementation of education. Three, single-parent families of children to be the psychological and behavioral symptoms One famous psychologist once said: "Families are not only the starting point for personal life, but also the source of the formation of personality. More solid marriage and family relations, education, the better their children's conditions." Of course, the children of single parent families, its education has inherent "anemia", coupled with changes in his home caused by the psychological changes and the impact of the surrounding environment so that these students vulnerable to adverse psychological and behavior disorders. To sum up, the principal has the following features: 1, because of family structure to rely on incomplete or no, should not normally be the minimum requirement from home, and in the ideological anxiety and inferiority, lack of self-confidence and ambition. 2, self-thought, so that students usually do not know their own shortcomings, consider their own performance are taken for granted, but also admit some students orally on their own shortcomings, but does not change. 3, acts of impulsive activity, motivated by the accidental or instinctive desire to dominate, the lack of purpose, planning and integrity, bad self-control are often associated with people around the conflict and even relatives. 4, usually considered more than a simple mind, there is no vitality, usually inactive, they do not want to talk to classmates and teachers, do not want to take part in collective activities, within the character. 5, are very subjective pain, deal with bad interpersonal relationships, social adaptability and bad, strong dependence. 6, suspicion heavier heart, easy to quarrel with the people happen, good fighting, lying, relatively lax behavior and consciously poor compliance. 7, resistance down low,???wronged or setbacks encountered difficulties stricken at a loss, lack of willpower, fear of failure, psychological bearing capacity of the weak. 8, reverse psychology, and of collective apathy, and the division of Friends of the feelings of alienation, prone to emotional confrontation, often moved in the opposite direction, as well as "?????" behavior. Minors because of puberty are at and easy to suffer from psychological obstacles, one of single-parent families in their children's psychological disorder is generally more prominent, and a variety of psychological barriers usually staggered together. World Health Organization to the "health" under the definition that: "Health is not only no physical defects or disease, but also has physiological and psychological and social status of the perfect." Shocking Xiong LIU Hai-yang injury case, so much distressed people, single-parent families from a young age LIU Hai-yang????mother, my mother put all their hopes on him, my mother is very strict discipline, can do and should not have to do the provisions of this excessive self-consciousness and to suppress the expansion resulted in abnormal psychology and acts of extreme, it can be said that single-parent family structure and educational disorders have a serious impact on the LIU Hai-yang, the emergence of this case, give the whole society has sounded a focus on single-parent families in their children's education alarm. Abnormal psychology is bound to affect the study, live, work, influence a child's life, so, from a certain perspective, people's mental health is more important than physical health, concern about this part of the crowd, and education will be concerned about the letter, which is strengthening ideological and moral education of minors an important job. Four, single-parent families Children's Education Strategies School as educators, should be how to understand, care for and educate children of single parent students? Through our practice and exploration, have the following experience: 1, analysis of single-parent families investigate the causes and the status quo, "the right medicine" 2, wake-up self-esteem, students lit the hearts of the "light" 3, the creation of the environment, into love In short, the School of Education is to develop character, prevention and correction of bad moral character and cultural knowledge to impart to students the major positions, but due to the impact of exam-oriented education, examination results and teachers linked to fame and fortune, a great stress for teachers, and teachers tend to migrate to stress students, on the part of such a "bad students" when the deal with emotion and should not idea to do thorough and meticulous job, so that students will easily lead to resistance, have gradually lost their self-esteem and confidence, deepened the psychological barrier of deformation occurred in teacher-student relationship. In addition, the current large-scale Class I school, students are also more obvious differences, usually a rare lecture to take care of bad hygiene, so that part of the loss of confidence, lack of access to timely care for help and guidance, rather than the shortcomings and mistakes so that they can not control. Single parent children for this education is a long-term, meticulous and complex job, can not be hurried, the needs of our common efforts, we have love, but also have patience, and more importantly, perseverance. Although we should not also had them a happy home, but we can give them a foundry with love and warmth of the "U.S.", so in addition to stepping up our own self-cultivation of personality, but also gave a special love, as long as our unremitting efforts, single-parent families will have the children belong to their better future.