Prepare to let children leave the nest

     From the time they are toddlers, some astute parents are gearing up for the time when the children leave  the nest to be on their own.  Mentally, this can be such a great preparedness tool that will help both parents and children alike. When the growing years are looked at, from a glance, they happen to have sped by almost too fast.  If we are to begin, in advance, to prepare the process of letting the children leave home, it will be easier.

  It is difficult to not let the children be the entire world of ours. As the young child grows enough to do some things on their own, we need to let them. They learn those skills that they need for life, in the future, away from the confines of the home. This can be done while we can still guide and quietly supervise them. 

     While we still nurture our relationship with the partner in our life, we need to keep a watchful eye out for the activities of our children.  The children will be leaving, sometime, while the significant other remains.  This in not about taking good care of the spousal relationship. It is about the focus being on the importance of that not being put on the back burner for too long.  If partners work together on rearing the children niether parent gets  the full responsibility alone.  This is the utopian thought that can be the role modeling for the child when they leave  home too.

   Having great communiction with anyone is important. Your vocal interaction with your children is vital.  Talk to them about the skills they will need to learn from you.  They will not learn them well enough anywhere else.  Give them confidence by introducing them to life skills. Allow them to practice activities while you are able to point out the pitfalls while they are exercising their growth. If the children cannot actually practice something, educate them so they can avoid those pitfalls when they leave home without you.

     Your children will learn far more from watching and listening to you than you can imagine. You are their role model, so be a good one for them. When they are out of the nest they will be  well equipped.