Why Men Look at Adult Material

Well, we all know that men and women are built differently. I don’t just mean physically but emotionally as well. In nature the lion seeks a mate, procreates and reproduces.  Then he is off to another lioness to do the same thing. Men are no different in the sense that being viral and reproducing offspring in imbedded in their physiological make up. The only real difference between man and beast is that man need not produce offspring like the beast.

 Human relationships; such as marriage, scientifically goes against our chemical make up. When society imposes the institution of marriage on people it is the animal instinct in us all that we have to control to conform to marriage. Women naturally look for men who they deem strong and viral to be the provider of their offspring. Women want a man who fits their ideal in what qualities their mate should have. Men on the other hand simply have the need to reproduce. Now theses are just the biological needs that are instilled in men and women. You might say the animal side of us.

 The human side of us who have to exist in society, where intellect is involved, has had to learn to conform to societal rules. Men and women marry, they have children, and they remain monogamous. Sounds great if you’re watching a movie but life isn’t that simple. Due to our biological needs sometimes our societal needs are pushed aside. Men and women find it difficult to remain monogamous. Men look at other women. Women need more from a relationship than just to produce and clean the house.  Men look at other women and watch adult movies simply because their physiological composition tells them that they need to impress the ladies. Now you are thinking, how is this man of mine impressing a woman in a photograph or an adult movie star in a movie? Technically, he is not trying to impress anyone. However, his instinctual need to find a mate; many mates, to reproduce is being fulfilled. He watches other women and sexual acts and he feels as though he is the king of the jungle. Testosterone begins to flow and this man feels like the king of the jungle, the lion.

Since men are human, and we all have an intellectual process, men look at porn as a way to fulfill this jungle fever without diminishing his human need to have a fulfilling relationship with a women by means of monogamous marriage or other committed relationship. If this sounds like a cop out, really it is not.

Women on the other hand have a need for emotional stability. Women want to feel revered by their spouse, set above the rest. Marriage fulfills that need for women but many women feel that if their husbands love them then there is no need to watch porn. I can certainly understand that mentality. I don’t care who you are, your feelings will at one time or another feel hurt that your man is looking at another woman in a pornographic way.  

Women have to keep in mind the basic chemical makeup of men and women. It is not unusual for a woman to want to look at other men who may appear more viral than their mate. This too, is perfectly normal.

Now the problems that arise with porn in a relationship come about when pornography is maintained as a secretive act. Making anything secretive destroys the trust in a relationship. Another problem is when porn is used as a substitute for a healthy sexual relationship with your partner. If a man needs porn to get excited about having sex with his wife or girlfriend then there is a serious problem in the relationship. Pornography should never replace physical foreplay.  Adult material should only be used as a sexual aid in a relationship. If your man uses more time and energy looking at porn than attending to his sexual duties in the bedroom, then that is a problem.

A healthy sexual relationship requires both partners to be open and be honest about every aspect of their lives, especially in the sex department. Sex is what drives people to get together in the first place. Physical attraction toward one another is what prompts us to want to discover more about a person. We eventually marry and share the rest of our lives together all because we were attracted to someone in the first place. It makes sense then to discuss any and all problems or potential problems that can arise in the bedroom department.

Speaking to your significant other in a loving and tactful manner will get better results rather than speaking in an accusatory tone of voice. Both parties of a relationship are equally responsible for discussing issues and coming up with a solution for every area of the couple’s life together. No one person is solely responsible for the health and well being of a marriage or committed relationship.