9 Obvious Signs You Are Getting Used As a Doormat

Did you know what a doormat is? It’s that mat you’ve seen so many times before the doorway, upon entering your home or someone else’s. You used it for wiping your dirty shoes.

But I am not talking about that kind of doormat. I’m referring to a human one. It’s a slang term for a person who submits meekly to domination or mistreatment of others. A doormat is a person who is the habitual object of humiliation or abuse by another. In short, it is the person who is continuously being used or taken advantaged of for selfish reasons. The following are obvious signs that a person is being used or being treated as a doormat. This could be you or any person that you know of. So watch out for these signs.

1. The person close to you has become more demanding without considering your personal circumstances. He wants you to do more for him while repaying you with little effort, or none at all.

2. You always get interrupted each time you speak your mind or express your feelings. The other person thinks highly of himself and doesn’t consider you human enough to feel and share your thoughts.

3. You don’t get appreciation from your efforts even if you work so hard for the good of the other person. You won’t even get a simple thank you. When you are doing your best for that individual and not getting back any praise for your good deeds, it means that she doesn’t care much about you. She only wants you to make her happy and it doesn’t matter if you are miserable in your life.

4. You do all the work but the other person does nothing to help you out. No matter how tired or sick you seem to look, you won’t get any help on a certain task even if he is doing nothing or just relaxing.

5. You feel you are invisible to the other person. It’s like when you are around her, you don’t exist at all. When you are talking to her, she doesn’t even bother to look up or acknowledge that you are trying to strike up a conversation.

6. You lost your social life. You can’t go out and enjoy life with friends because you always fear that you will get yelled at when you come home, or worse the door will be locked and you will spend the rest of your day and night outside.

7. You are not shown respect. The person you live with doesn’t talk to you with respect but always puts you down. If you have friends, you are always the object of ridicule and scorn. They want you to be with them not because they value your presence but because they want you as a source of entertainment for them.

8. Nobody remembers or cares about your birthday or other important dates and events that mean to you. Your life doesn’t interest the other person at all. But when it comes to his part, you are required to remember important dates, else if you forget, you will be punished severely.

9. The other person cannot talk to you without yelling or being upset. She loves to manipulate your weak points and enjoyed seeing you panic and submit to her wants all the time.

If you say yes to most of the items above, you are being treated as a doormat. Remember, it is not healthy for you to be treated like that for the rest of your life. When you recognize these signs happening in your life right now, do something to break from it and find your worth and value as a person. It is never too late.