How to be truly happy in your lovelife

Well to be truly happy in this life of ours, one needs to be completely satisfied in all area of ones life. Don't get me wrong, we as humans will always have need and wants. There must be a point in life when you can say yep! this is the life. There are five main areas namely: the spiritual life, family, lovelife, health and career.

I am going to concentrate on the most emotional one which is the lovelife. How we we be truly happy in this area ? Well, it is not a very easy task to be happily married or happy in a relationship. Some may say it happened for me easily but for some they have had to put in so much effort to make it work and for it to remain that way. There are three main things that I find necessary for a lovelife to work

1. Fear of God in the relationship: The reason for this is that, you are both accountable to God and for that reason you make your priority to always strife to do what pleases God and subsequently you treat our partner same way because of your respect towards God. There is give and take without expecting in return as well. so each party ends up giving 100% of themselves in the relationship ! How sweet ! You may say "hmm.... but I have seen some marriages and relationships that survived without God ! How many of those people you heard about do you actually know personally? It is very rare!!!!!!

2. Compatibility: Oh goodness ! This I can not stress enough. This criteria is really important as a lot of relationships/marriages break up because of this. Most people tend to overlook this when they first start dating because they think that the "love" they have will see them through ! When the initial fuzz is over then the couple can see clearly, then the problems start. When two people are incompatible they will always have clashing ideas,thoughts, views, mindset ! etc etc one thinks to be poor is ok the other thinks to the rich is a sin ! etc etc There is no agreement , no middle ground , nothing ! There will be resentments, regrets, blaming and much more

3. Attraction: I am not talking about just the physical attraction but that of the persons character or behaviour towards other people in their natural self and the kind of person they are. Lets think of it this way, if one day I really find my partners' behaviour offensive, will I still be attracted to him/ her or will my so called love VANISH from that day ?! This is a common one and I think it is true. Nobody wants to wake up to a monster every morning ? do we ? No ! so we have to be physically attracted to whoever we are choosing to be our partner for life!