How can you get more friends?

Everyone has probably already some friends from childhood and know that social contact is important to get more friends. Friends are valuable in our lives but you may encounter several problems when you search for more friends. It might seem easy but you will discover fast that not everyone you meet can become your friends.

Friends need certain capacities, for example a good listener, trustworthiness, honesty, respect, patience and will try to help when you are in trouble or you need advice. Real friends are not easy to find and you understand making more friends is not like dating or choosing some books to read.

Some people never have trouble to get more friends but some people may be too shy or they have difficulties to make contact with other people. They don’t know how to start talking with other people and sometimes it is just a matter of making the first step for talking with someone else. They need some courage but once they know the ropes, they succeed in getting more people as friend.

Here are some steps which may help you to get more people to be your friend:

*Join a club or any social activity

Everyone has some hobbies or some activities they like to do with other people. Joining a club can be a good idea because you will meet people with similar interests. It is possible you like to exercise and there is certainly a club in your environment where you can exercise with other people. During your activities you will talk to each other and probably you will have a drink together after your exercises. It is a good way to get to know each other better and you can talk about your personal life and maybe after some time you will make appointments with some of these people and before you know you have a new circle of friends.

*Your workplace

It is possible you like some colleagues on your work but that doesn’t mean immediately they will become good friends. Working together can result in a friendship but it even possible you can only be colleagues. Jealousy and striving for promotion are issues which can cause trouble in your work situation and is also an important factor why you never can be friends.  Your workplace can be a good place to find some new friends. It is perfect possible you meet some colleagues which you can trust but you need to make appointments after your work if you want to get some of these colleagues to your friend. Going shopping, having a drink together, an evening in theatre or any other cultural event

*Online possibilities

Joining social networking sites can help to get more people to your friend. There are several popular networking sites, for example Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Friendster and many others where you can easily get more friends. You just need to join these sites and fill in your profile but it is wise to be careful online.  You can send messages and some of these sites offer the possibility to chat with each other. This can be a good start to build up a friendship and before you know you have a large group of friends. It may be possible some of them live don’t far from where you live and you can meet each other.

You may also join some other websites where you can discuss with some other people, for example writing sites, education sites, photography sites. You can start with posting in the boards and contact some members by mail services and you will get many friends with similar interests.

*Travel in group

Organized group travels are excellent if you want to make some new friends. Most everyone enjoys traveling and you will have the chance to meet some other people. If you are single, you can consider to join some organized travels for singles. It is maybe easier to add more friends in these groups if you are single because couples are most of the time together and it might be more difficult to add some of them to your friends. It is easier for singles to make appointments with other singles because couples spend more time together and it is difficult to build up a lasting friendship with them.

*Meet some friends of people who belong to your circle of friends

Most everyone has already some friends but it is possible you never have meet some other friends of them. It is maybe a good idea to invite some of your friends with some of their friends which you have never meet at home or you can organize an activity where you can meet each other. It is possible their friends will become also your friends.

*Education

When you are young, you will certainly get many friends during your school time. You will play together and you plan several activities which you like. Also adults can follow education; many people will follow some education after work or in the weekend. There are courses of every kind of education and you will certainly meet some other people. You will likely build up a friendship with some people who follow the same education. It is important you talk to each other after the lessons and you can invite some of them to do some things together. This can be the start of a lasting friendship.

Getting more people to be your friend can be really important because nobody wants to feel lonely and you can’t spend all your free time with only one friend. You need more friends in your life but it is really important you distinguish your confidential friends from your other friends. You can have friends to do some activities together but your confidential friends will help you give trust in every situation in your life. How you can get more people to your friend is a matter of joining social activities, communicating with other people and you need patience.