Adjusting to the Empty Nest

There are days when you cannot imagine living without the pitter patter of all those little feet. Then, on other days, you can't wait for the time when they move on. Then, that day really comes. The real question is this-Are you ready for life after kids? Here are ways that you can begin adjusting to the empty nest.

Just breathe. They do have to fly on their own! You can't always be there to hold their hand, and you can't live their life for them. The days of child locks and car seats are finished. The days of silent hallways, empty laundry baskets, and a whole lot of alone time have arrived.

Record your thoughts. Express what you are feeling on a regular basis. Use a journal, use your computer, start a blog or even videotape yourself.  It doesn't even have to be about your kids, it is an outlet for you! Journaling also helps prevent talking to oneself. Out loud. In public.

Now is the time to take up a hobby. What, you don't have time for such silly nonsense? Look around! Yes, you do have time. Pick something that tickles your fancy, be it cake decorating, knitting, woodworking or even underwater basket weaving. We're looking for distractions here, work with me!

Unless you already have one, go get a job. As a stay-at-home parent, you may have forgotten how it is to be in contact with other human beings. When you have somewhere to go, a sense of purpose and responsibilities, it will ease the pain of withdrawal! Besides, once you start spending time around other mothers, you'll remember why you couldn't wait for your own to grow up.

Take the time to get reacquainted with your spousal unit. Or go get one, if you've put off dating to carry out your duties as a single parent. It's time to reconnect with yourself, and remember that you are definitely more than just a parent. Just think about it! This is the time when you don't have to lock the bedroom doors and you definitely do not have to be quiet!

Get yourself out of the house. You now have time for concerts, museum visits and shopping. You are no longer chained to car seats, diaper bags or chauffering. You are now free to move about. Just do it! This is the moment  you've been waiting for, now is NOT the time to wallow in self pity! You won't be lonely for long. They always come back. Usually, with dirty laundry.