Female Ways

In my day to day activities such as work and other social environments, I find myself captivated with watching and comparing how men and women interact.  I see things in one sex that I do not in the other and this fascinates me.  What I plan to focus on in this piece is mainly the behaviors that are typical to females.  To fully appreciate what I am about to go into you must keep an open mind.

In my experiences thus far on this earth I have observed behaviors and attitudes that are a part of my sex.  I am a female in my mid thirties and find myself not following along with what is considered typical female behavior.  Well, at least not as often as so many other women.  I had recently been conducting a little experiment of my own, testing the responses of a woman dominated site.  This experiment is the result of seeing the back and forth banters of all these females.  The data from this experiment and how I've formed my opinions of typical female behavior are not limited to this site.  I also work in a female dominated office where day to day activities and decisions are of the influence of only females.  That being said, I see the good and the bad in seeing so many females congregate in one location and are forced to interact with one another; some scenarios more than others have yielded drama-infested results.

With the site I had been a member of I had seen a question/answer forum that allows for so much nonsense and bashing, I often couldn’t believe what I read.  The site which will go unmentioned in here, has rules and regulations as to what conduct is allowed and what would result in deletion of statements and/or termination of their account.  I really believe these rules are pushed, and as this goes on I watch the drama ensue with confusion.

As I saw on a daily basis the wretched display of communication between millions of women, I couldn’t help but ask myself so many questions of the sex I'm not sure I'm proud to be part of.  Why do women berate one another, especially when it's about the topic of childrearing?  Why is it so important to knock another down just for their opinion?  The cruel language down to the belittling of parent styles to choices that are made by these so called "moms" is outrageous and should be a crime.  I am ashamed to be a part of a sex where so many women find it their daily fix to seek out this type of erroneous self-esteem boosting.  To me, all this ludicrous behavior only reveals how weak so many women are that they log into some silly online society that condones and encourages such hateful behavior.

I know there are stupid and hurtful people out there of both sexes.  I must say I have not witnessed such utterly foolish antics by the male species to this multitude.  Perhaps I need to do more research, but feel I'll be hard pressed to find a site out there which supports males going back and forth having some kind of "pissing contest" about who's the better man.  If there is such a site, then I stand corrected.  But as for now I speak only of what I've seen so far.

Basically it is safe to say I feel that most, not all, women display poor choices in their interactions with other women.  I see it in the office I currently work in where there is no end of some sort of some need for one female to conspire against another.  It is not your average competitive behavior where one tries to outwit the other and be a better version of themselves.  It is more the actions of “how can I make her look like an idiot?”  I see this almost daily and it aggravates me to no end.  I try not to fall into it and usually just tune it out.  But after a while of hearing this over and over again, I find myself stepping in to either whoever is doing the nonsense, or better yet, my supervisor.  It often falls on deaf ears only to start up again the following week.

Now me being a woman, I don’t find any of these types of behaviors appealing.  They all seem strange and annoying to me as I either try to blend in wherever I am or ask of myself “why am I not the same way?”  I suppose it is the result of the way I was raised coupled with a healthy self esteem, not reliant on outside influence to get me through the day.  I have found many females seem irritated by my confidence and find me an outsider, as I do not follow their “katty” ways.

Even though I love being a woman, I do not want to be associated with the atrocious behaviors mentioned above. Just as men do not like to be thought of in negative ways, I seek the same separation of sex as a way to determine my actions. As many women who act like the behaviors mentioned above, there are some who question why men look at us as emotionally charged and responsibility-challenged; incapable of holding positions of power without being influenced by our emotions. It is the demonstration of such destructive behaviors by women that reinforce this negative opinion of women. I live my life to break that opinion, carrying out my decisions based on logic and not falling into the trap of gossiping about or berating people for the sake of making myself feel better.