Dyslexia what 's it all about

The study of dyslexia has been formed out of my personal experiences and theory of the study of The Human Mind, based on my experiences and interaction with a large cross section of society. These are my personal assessments of what I think we mean by what is dyslexia.

                                           Dyslexia and a tool to solve it.

During the study of the human mind for over five decades now, I have observed that a large number of diseases are particularly those connected with the human mind or better still the brain, which are generally manifested and also aggravated by ourselves. These kinds of diseases and complexities are ingrained by over optimistic, egoistic parents and also perhaps teachers as they over step their own expectations from their children and students to perhaps being better samples of dyslexic patients them selves .There is a distinct mixture of cultures in USA and Canada as opposed to Asiatic countries, where we have  an admixture of genes in the initial stages and also the norms of assessing life vary as opposed to the countries which exhibit some sort of stability of the genes. One is prone to find that in western type of free society where one has no inhibition one has a tendency to be levelled, if not branded as a dyslexic. The disease is a be-habitual pattern of a disease from the stiff neck tie and starch color pattern of western society.

The western part of the world exhibits a greater standard of equality and freedom and perhaps both men and women are placed on an independent and equal platform. The parents give sex its role of simple stress release and more of relaxation and fun yet take little care to produce kids when one is in the physically active and sexually mature stages of reproduction mainly because both parents do not want to lose their own individuality and freedom of enjoying lives in their own manner, devoid of the responsibilities encountered by fathering and becoming mothers of children in their own youth and earlier stages of life.
The western countries then take recourse to counselling at each and every corner of their lives and so become prone to becoming adult dyslexics themselves. This pattern of behaviour is then projected by them through their own progeny. They lack attention towards their children and prevent to help younger kids from developing as normal human beings. Such parents are responsible to add undue uncertainty and confusion in the already confused and young growing minds. The children do not know what is or better still what is not expected of them in their too disciplined type of culture and or behaviour. Shoo the devil is coming, don’t make noise, don’t play around mischievously, what will others think and my position in society will be compromised by your silly actions are a few causes of developing dyslexia in the young and yet immature child. This is what needs to be curbed first. Such a thought process where a child is expected to be raised without moms’ love and initial warmth and child care, to include breast feeding, are a few causes for the so called hyperactivity and dyslexic kind of behaviour in an otherwise normally developing child. This is what needs more attention than mere behavioural degradation in the minds of developing kids who are deprived of the much-needed initial parental guidance as clarified earlier.

It’s the parents’ crass disinterest and leaving their kids in the hands of nannies, child care, and at times irresponsible care takers who instil much more confusion in a naturally innocent and growing child. Take care. Unless there are physical malfunctioning symptoms in the brain owing to genetic origin and the retarded mental capabilities and reactions, in my opinion the disease which we are supposed to study in our own progeny, we should first expose ourselves to a psychiatrist, whether we are giving the right type of treatment to the child, we wish to boast of as our kid at a later date in our lives. Perhaps the answer would be whether this writer is himself dyslexic who has the nerve to question our parental behaviour towards our children.

Notwithstanding the facts as highlighted above actually dyslexic kids are born. One needs to take due care and precautions from preventing the abnormality in a child from aggravating further. It’s a known fact that late pregnancies alcoholic adherence and smoking as well as genetic or cultural mismatches are possible causes of the supposed disorientation observed in the child. Yet we find that the behavioural pattern we think is abnormal may not be actually being so.

It is a well-known fact that the child’s mind or better still brain develops by half up to the age of 8 years. It develops fully once the brain matures at the age of 18 years’. The sexual and over all physical development of the body ceases to progress further after one is 21 years of age. During these three stages of human development we should not consider that our child would be a prodigy at 5 years or an extraordinarily developed mature and intellectual child at an age ahead of 18 years. So also sexually and mentally fully mature well before one is twenty-one years of age. The ages between 15 and 19 years are very crucial in the thinking and development of the human being so called maybe dyslexic but to my mind a normally balanced child, subjected to dyslexic kind of parents. During these stages of development unless we help the child grow normally we are prone to aggravate dyslexia type of symptoms in the immature and otherwise normally growing child.

What then are the symptoms that makes us qualify a child as a dyslexic, as per our own individualistic manner of thought process? We must be practical in our desires, hopes, aspirations and expectations before we expose our children to undue pressures in front of a psychiatrist. I have observed children become shy of nudity and physical exposure as they grow beyond the age of five. Exposing oneself in front of a doctor both physically and mentally may not be acceptable to a child irrespective of age. Thus one becomes prone to the so-called dyslexic child. By now we all must be aware that the child we supposedly call dyslexic has certain definite mannerisms to exhibit which shall follow soon.

                                                            Who is dyslexic?
The best example of a dyslexic person cannot be anyone other than me. Since I was born a last thirteenth and  unwanted child as there was not much attention paid towards use of condoms in those times, I was however  welcomed to this world. I was the cause of poverty in my family which was otherwise prosperous. As times changed and I could not be afforded a good education I was placed in a spiritual class where mental activity was even accepted by the mentally retarded. I was not a mentally retarded child but in my own assessment a highly intellectual one kids of my age. I was disgusted in studying scriptures though I was adept at it. I wanted to switch over to mathematics even though I was a weakling. My highly educated sister was so fed up with me and as she was highly mathematically oriented she made no bones to address me as a dunce. What you perhaps will understand as a moron. One can imagine the impact of such a classification on the mind of a young kid. Unmindful as she perhaps was she in later years landed as a final adult dyslexic and passed away to eternity prematurely.

My concept of life and a higher order of understanding, befitting my young years, gave me the impetus to expel myself out from the environs, which perhaps would have seen me waste out as a cleric level, at the very least. Owing to failing monetary levels and no help at hand, I barely was a subject of attention for the school principal who exempted me from many additional school charges, but I had to pay the basic fees. I managed some how, and in later years, by help of a better tutor and proper attention, overcame my complex and insecurity and did well in additional Moths, my sisters grading me an as dunce, not withstanding.

In later years as I braved the storm and realized my teachers simply said I was racy and had a rambling style and went off the mark, they indicated neither reason nor any remedy. To this day I am dyslexic, despite the achievements in my life.

What then is dyslexia? , But a simple under estimate of ones ability, owing to ones own inability of understanding. Had I been given proper training, guidance and the right approach, perhaps my rambling style and going off the mark, as I do even today, may have sustained and made me perhaps a better child in their eyes. But then how do I know that you are not more dyslexic than I. Einstein was slow in class work, not because he was dyslexic, but his teachers were not able to understand him as Einstein%u2019s is, and as we know today, was well above par as compared to his peers and teachers also.
Perhaps it was they who should have been earmarked and branded as suffering from this man made malady, rather than being culprit and falling prey to the machinations of those in power. Was Pablo dyslexic? He was the greatest painter of his time, suffering from this malady we blow out of proportion. I dare say no.
At times my mind runs at speeds, much faster than my fingers keep pace. My typing is not as good as a clerks%u2019, I type seeing the keyboard. Is it any assessment of my ability of memory? My memory far surpasses the content of many people, who grade themselves as intellectuals. But their memory about the mind of man and its capabilities as well as limitations is miniscule. Am I a dyslexic? No not at all. My mind is rife.

We must assess a child, as per his actual capabilities and help him achieve normal standards, as obtaining as per his level, of the minds of other children. We must help him find ways and means of improving in standards as expected of children of his /her age. We ought not to ridicule the child of the awareness of his ability and we must help him more with love and parental attention, to improve upon his failings and weaknesses, if any, to an expected level of understanding. Of children his age. We must leave out all comparison with those who may appear to be of a supposedly higher grade or order of intelligence,

Avoid going to counsellors, love the child, guide him, help him, tutor him and also make him aware that he is an individual entity, and need not be compared with anyone else. Then you will see how your child develops, to be a full-grown intellectual and able man. One of logical reason and understanding. Do not grade him as being dyslexic, if at all you don%u2019t still understand, it is you, who perhaps needs to take mental therapy. You need more of meditation, to enable you to understand yourself first, before you dare to get an evaluation from a practitioner, of whether or not your child is dyslexic, which in all profanity he /she is not.

To come to a logical conclusion, if a child is physically fit, his coordination of mind and his physical limbs, are as per permissible standards, as judged by a Qualified Medical Practitioner, then all you, as parents need to do is, to sacrifice your personal comfort, lower your egos, and devote more time and attention towards the finer development of your child, to become a whole being.
I have purposely excluded the so called symptoms of dyslexia, as we all by now know that they encompass physical and mental disorientation, in the eyes of a generalist doctor, and not a psychiatrist.