How Do a Muslim Man Should Treat His Muslim Wife

  Assalamualaikum (peace upon you) .You has converted into Muslim to married a Muslim woman. This is true as our prophet Muhammad say: a Muslim man should marry with a Muslim woman. Then, you want to know about how to behavior with your Muslim wife, how to treat your wife, what should you give her for gift and what allow in bedroom, how to handle any disagreement and your responsibility. Well then, there are rule on about all of that in Islam. As an introduction, all you need to know is a man is the leader to his family. Therefore, you need to know more about how to lead your family so that you will get a blissful family in the other day.

  Firstly, you need to know how to behaving with your Muslim wife. In Islam, a wife must respect his husband no matter how he is. The husband also needs to respect his wife. Islam has given a rule that a wife should obey to his husband. This mean your wife needs to follow all of what you are saying or tell him. If she doesn’t obey of what you are asking for her, she might get sin. A wife also needs to attend his husband with the best of what she can give. So, as the conclusion, a wife need to attend her husband the best she can. A husband needs also to take care of her wife. Islam placed a rule that a husband need to treat and behaving with his wife in the soft way. You can read more books about our lovely prophet and his friend about how their wife attends them.

  Then, you want to know what gift you should give to your wife. What you need to know is a husband is responsible to give maintenance for his family. The maintenance should come from a legal job or money. So, you can give her any gift that you like, but make sure it is from a legal way or legal money. If you asking what kind or type of gift you should give to her, the answer is everything from legal money.

  Now, what is allowed in bedroom? That is one of your questions. Before that, I would like to read a meaning of Al-Quran from the surah Al-Baqarah sentence 223.The meaning is “In the name of Allah the most great full and the most merciful. Your wife likes an estate for you. So do whatever you want at your own estate”. So that’s it. The meaning of surah Al-Baqarah sentence 223. From the meaning of the surah, you have known that your wife is like your own estate. So you can do whatever you like with it. So, in this case, Islam has allowed you to do anything you like with your wife. It is not wrong for you to sleep with your wife in the same bedroom. You can talk and play about lightheartedly and many more with your own wife. Islam has not prohibited you to do anything with your wife. Just don’t hit or start fighting with your wife because that is the one thing that Islam forbids us.

  What should we do when there is a disagreement or anything like that between a wife and husband? Actually, a disagreement can start when the husband is being cruel to his wife and can also start when the wife don’t obey her husband. In the other word, the wife is disaffected. In Islam, there is a method for solving the disagreement. When there is a disagreement between a wife and husband, they should know first which is true, the wife or husband. If both of them don’t know which one is the true, what they should do is taking someone from the husband family and someone from the wife family as a judge person. From this, they will know who’s right from a fair way.

  When your wife does not obeying you. The first thing is don’t hit her. You need to calm down. If you cannot calm down and feel uncomfortable, try to recite this istighfar  “ As tagh firullah hal Azim ”. After that I am sure you will feel more comfortable and calm. Then ask your wife why she doesn’t obeying you. Maybe she has something that avoiding her to obey your command. That is a good way to prevent a disagreement.

  Also, you need to know about a husband responsibility and a wife responsibility. A husband responsibility is more than a wife responsibility. The husband responsibility including obeying to Allah and to parents, take care of family and many more. But, the most main responsibility is to Allah, your parents and to your family. You have to obeying to Allah. The meaning of obeying to Allah is doing everything that Allah say such doing the solat five times a day, be kind to your parent and many more. Then, you need to be kind with your parent and take care of them when they are old. Islam has forcing every Muslim to take care of their parents. This is because your parent is the one who give birth you and also the one who educate you. How can you pay for what have they done to you? The only pay you should give them is by being kind to them and takes care of them when they are old.

 That’s all. If you have any question about this topic or not understand about it please send me an E-mail and ask about it at   leonhunter8@hotmail.com  or you can left your question in the comment side.