Tips to a Great Conversation

One of the characteristics of an interesting person is being a good conversationalist.   A good looking person who is nonsense to talk to makes a boring companion.  It is not difficult to develop this skill.  Here are tips to keep a conversation going.

1.  Don’t be afraid of conversational taboos.  Lots of people discuss “delicate” topics, such as religion and politics without coming to blows.  Vital issues – the kind you feel strongly about – often make the best conversations.

2.  Don’t argue—discuss.  The purpose of a conversation is to exchange views and information, not to convert the other person to your particular set of prejudices.

3.  Learn to listen.  Conversation should have a give-and-take rhythm.  Allow your friend to ‘speak his piece’ without constant interruptions.  Pay attention.  A genuine interest in the other person’s point of view is absolutely essential.

4.  Stay with the subject.  Do not flit from topic to topic without doing justice to any.  Try to explore an issue with thoroughness.  It’s much more satisfying.

5.  Say what you think.  Don’t be afraid to disagree.  A certain amount of honest friction heightens interest and establishes mutual respect.

6.  Don’t panic when there’s a pause.  You don’t have to rush in to fill every little pocket of silence.  Pauses are a necessary part of every good conversation.  They do refresh—and they provide an opportunity to collect one’s thoughts before plunging on.

It is good to keep these tips in mind, but most importantly, BE YOURSELF.  People can spot a pretentious person.  Speak of things you only know about, so broaden your knowledge and have something useful to share.