How to Ask the

Dearly departed

The loved one gets stuck on the threshold of the spirit world, while the living exists in a kind of dream world, sometimes unable to engage in outward life in order to stay in communion with the dearly departed. While this may be normal at a certain stage of the grieving process, it can begin to cause problems when the haunting goes on for too long and is corded too deeply into the soul-life of the living... I myself had a strange experience with this. I was walking up to a plate glass door that was so clean that my eyes played a trick and I thought it was open. I walked right into the glass and got a mild concussion. When I got home, my mother called to tell me my Grandmother had just died. I always believed she tried to pull me after her... But, there is a simple remedy. I have used it myself most effectively.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging Things You’ll Need:

• photo of dearly departed
• bowl of water
• white candle
• compassion

Step1
altar
It is a very nice touch to lay a white cloth on the table before you begin. Find a photo of the dearly departed and set it in the midst of their favorite flowers. Find anything special of theirs, like jewelry, hoes, books, bits of clothing, that might have their energy in it and help you to focus on your relationship with them.
Step 2
mirror
Set a large white candle behind the photo and light it. Set a full glass of water in front, for the spirit moves across the face of the waters. If you are psychic, set a mirror nearby, for you may be able to see the ghost reflected there.
Step3
talk to her
Talk to the ghost. Share old memories. Speak them into the candle flame and let them burn away in the light. When you sense the presence of the ghost, tell them it is time for them to move on to the Divine Realm and that you will be OK. Talk as long as you need to. When you feel free, or sense something has moved off, ( a very physical sensation) put out the candle and end your rite.
Step 4
Leave your altar set up in case you have to process more. When you feel very finished, bury the candle in the earth and spill the water over it. Freshen the water every day, but first, pour the old water into a running stream. (includes running tap)

Tips & Warnings

• Your whole environment will lighten up. So will you.
• You may have to do this more than once. If so, check in with yourself and ask why is it necessary to hang on? It is difficult, but sometimes acceptance is the only way to allwo yourself to get back into the flow of life.