Growing in Positivism

Both school education and family education play an important role to shape positive discipline among the youngsters. Education in school as well as parenting are sometimes regarded as the toughest job in the world as both involve nurturing positive discipline and good value among the young generations. When done positively, they can be enjoyable, exciting and rewarding.

“Growing in positivism” here means any actions that are intended to give every student/child the opportunity to grow into a healthy, happy, reliable, responsible and confident adult.

Parents in particular, are primary protector for a child, while teachers are secondary protector for a child. That means parents are the first home to the child, while teachers are the second home to the child. Therefore, both parents and teachers have greater influence on a child’s/student’s burgeoning sense of self-esteem and self-worth. Despite of this endless responsibility, parenting and teaching are two main learning components in a child’s/ student’s life.

Though parents and teachers learn parenting/teaching through trial and error, this respectable job can sometimes be very challenging. When dealing with discipline the child’s/student’s problem, some parents/teachers may have a little knowledge to know about the child’s/student’s development. Often, it’s easy for them to assume to do nothing more than scolding, hitting, screaming or punishment. When the discipline has been interpreted wrongly, not only they can’t solve many social problems, but also unable to help the child/student to get along well with people around them. When the child/student is growing up in negativism, they won’t be taught to behave in an agreeable manner that allows him/her to learn from mistakes and errors while letting him/her to experience the boundary between “right” and “wrong”. The experience of learning “right” and “wrong” is essential to assist him/her to make a decision in their later life.

The moment of positive discipline is achieved when non-violent, respectful and correct way of teaching is implemented to help and guide the child/student to be a good learner. It shouldn’t be mistaken however, that positive discipline is letting the child/student to do whatever he/she wants. Rather, positive discipline should be seen as a support to guide the child/student to succeed in life. This goal can be achieved if proactive and non-violence approaches are taken to promote self-responsibility and self-control in children’s/students’ growth.

Discipline here should be kept differently with both the child’s or student’s age and ability in each stage of their growths. That is due to that teenagers are rebellious, preschoolers are active while toddlers have tantrums.

In the process of parenting/teaching, pity, commands, orders, harsh instructions and criticism should be avoided, so that the child/student can be given plenty of encouragement, respect and confidence. This is important to be noted as it’ll help him/her to grow properly and healthily.

Parents/teachers should be patient while dealing with slow-learners by devoting their time and efforts to guide him/her through every process of learning. He/she should be trained and guided just like other normal child/student.

Parents/teachers should put top priority during teaching the child/student on a good role model as the child/student will learn by observing adult’s behaviors than any other way. For example, to teach politeness, say “thank you” in front of them, or to teach good manner, use “please”.

Every child/student prefers to be noticed and admired. It’s always recommended to reward good behavior but to refuse bad behavior. However, when overdo positive attention is given, the result is always negative. The child/student can distinguish between the false and genuine praise. Nagging, bribing and treating should be avoided as it’ll cause the opposite effect in parenting/teaching in the long run.

To help the child/student growing in positivism, they should be given an equal attention. When the child/student feels that their existence is not being appreciated, they’ll do something (whether good or bad) to grab for an adult’s attention.

Behavior should be handled with care as it can become more and more outrageous when the hope of getting better and better is huge among the youngsters. That means behavior should be done within its reasonable and restricted boundaries and limits. A good rapport will generally promote good discipline between the youngsters and the parents/teachers.

Try to make time even though you’re tied to the busiest working schedules. Make time to talk to the child/student as possible as you can. Spend quality time with him/her by letting him/her know that he/she can talk about anything with you, including his/her feeling.