Ten Tips For Better Sex, And a Better Life............

First let me say that I do not claim to be any kind of doctor or love guru. I have made this little list from my own personal experience and research.  These tips are just a few things that you can do to immediately, help to change your self for the better.  As with most things in life the first thing you must be able to control is your self. Just as with any thing that you would like to accomplish, focus as well as confidence are key.

Remember you are what you say you are as long as you do what you say you are going to do focus is the most important step in any project one overtakes.

(1) BE Focused:

The first thing you must do is be focused. In order to be focused one must be fluid and well versed in as much information as possible on whatever subject one happens to be involved with. In our case sex.

No one has ever woke up one morning and gone from a normal person and changed into a sex god. Just as any other thing you do, practice makes perfect. If you are lacking in experience as well as opportunity, then as much research as can be done will do you some good.

Movies and tv are bad places to look. Most of what is shown there is Hollywood and will not help you in your situation.  Pornography can teach you some great tricks, however if watched excessively will warp ones perception of real sexual activity.  The best thing to do is actual practice, trial and error. Books on sex such as Kama Sutra, and Tantra. will give you some ideas to help you to get more  relaxed and confident, as well as improve your repotwa.  The main thing to remember is that once you have made a conscious decision to be better at something, with a little focus one can easialy do whatever one sets out to do.  Think outside the box, research sex and its practices. Dont get lazy and comfortable, monotony is the main pit fall which will ruin any relationship sexual or not.

(2) Be Clean:

Good hygiene is key to being a better person as well as a better lover.  Its pretty basic, if you have a dirty mouth, brush your teeth. Dont munch down some garlic cheese frys and try to get intimate with your partner, I promise you they will not appreciate it.  Wash yourself. keep clean before you get intimate with anyone.  Pig Pen from Peanuts is not the person you want to be remembered as. If you are washed and smell nice, rather than having a resemblance to your dirty gym socks, you will most likely have a more enjoyable experience. As will your lover.

Trim your self. this means hair and nails. If you have black fingernails and toes to match, you will definitely not make a good impression.  Trim your hair. Top and bottom. I'm not saying you should go Brazilian. However trimming your pelvic area shows consideration for your partner. If you or your partner partake in oral activities, I can guarantee you will both enjoy things much more if both of you are cleanly trimmed.  I do not recommend shaving.

Your hair has the consistency of copper at around the same diameter.  If you use condoms this can be dangerous due to friction. The stubble can tear the condom making for an unpleasant situation to say the least. Like I said a little trim is all that is really needed, going over the top will  have major drawbacks. In this situation a little goes a long way.  Cleanliness does wonders for how other people percieve you. If you look clean and dress smart, you portray success, these days presentation is everything.

(3)    Be Smart

Being smart does not just pertain to how much you know but what you know. To be successful at anything, including sex you must know what you are doing. Being aware of std's as well as normal every day ailments such as the common cold or flu.  If you are sick or get cold sores, dont spread your sickness to your partner. At the same time be aware of your partner's health condition.  One night of fun isn't worth missing a week of work because you can't get out of bed.  And as always something as simple as birth control as well as use of condoms is a must.  If you sleep around, do research. Know that there are such things as std's and pregnancy which if encountered, can hinder your entire life. Lastly, be cautious. You never know what sex and relationships can bring. I am talking about excess baggage. This can be many things, from  a crazy ex, to cleptomania, or something as simple as you being a womaniser.  People are not to be underestimated, dont just bring strange people home with you, this is a good way to get in trouble. Get to know who you are sleeping with before you bring them that close to you.  Most times it isnt that big of a deal, gut be careful, you never know what may happen.

(4)   Be Healthy

It is a fact that people who are healthy are more likely to be happier, as well as live longer and be more successful.  This also pertains to sex. If you exercise regularly, not only will you be stronger, but your stamina will increase as well.  More stamina means you will not tire as easily and be able to have more sex. Pretty simple. Staying healthy also is more pleasing for your partner.  Women kind of frown on being intimate with the 300 pound guy with the beer belly covered in hair resembling a small Gorilla.   This also means dont smoke or limit your smoking. (yes hippies this also means pot ).  If you smoke, you smell like smoke and for a non smoker that kills the mood quicker than your mother comming to dinner. If you smell like smoke that means that you also taste like smoke. It also will affect your stamina, therefore limiting your abillity to be a good sex partner.  Healthy people attract healthy people, if you want to upgrade the demographic of people you are intimate with, the first thing to do is to upgrade yourself.   Diet plays a major part as well.  People are designed to eat fruits and vegitables. Meat and poultry have been intigrated into our mainstream diet, and though are much tastier than produce, have ill affects on your body.  Aside from hormones and steroids found in most meat and dairy, meat takes longer to break down in your body.  Beef is the longest.  Basicly what im getting to is overconsumption of meat, or over eating will make you gassey.  No one like to get a dutch oven while lying in bed with you.  Also heavy meals before sex will slow you down. Eat lightly and exersise, you wll be suprised how much things wil improve in your sexlife as well as your everyday existance.

(5)    Be Aware

Knowing that not all people are the same is important in life as well as in bed.  Everyone has different ideas of what is pleasurable and what is not.  Ask your partner what they enjoy, dont just roll and go, don't make sex routene always be open to sugestions as well new things.  Learn your partner's movements, facial expressions and reactions.  Learn timing as well as technique, then incorperate with how your partner reacts to what you do. Unless you are a pro, and sex is just second nature to you. If that were the case then you probably would not be reading this.   Remember sex like life is a team sport, and there is no I in team.

(6)    Be Open to New Things No one enjoys a "Dead" lay.   Be willing to experiment.  This may mean using toys, or it could be trying a new position.  Missionary is ok but it is very borring.  Im not sayinfg run out today to your local marital aid dispencery. However just be willing to try new ideas, and different activities.  Always try to improve yourself in life and everything you do.

(7)    Be Spontanious
The number one cause of relationship failure is boredom.  You cant have cherry pie every day, eventually it will end up tasting like wood.   Being spontaneous means always keeping your partner on their toes. If you are unpredictable and exciting, you tend to keep your partner's attention.  This could be anything, a small gift for no apparent reason. Cooking dinner rather than going out. ( not mac and cheese  or pizza guys, a real dinner at least 3 course, and no bread does not count.)  This could be knowing little tricks like unsnapping a brassiere  in the dark with one hand.  To removing undergarments with you teeth.  Do things that are tabboo, and racey.  Stopping and elevator  in between floors, to  arranging an encounter  in an unortodox place.  Anything unplanned or unpredictable will always keep them guessing your next move.   You dont have to be an adventure hero, just have a few tricks up your sleeves for spicing things up from time to time.
(8)   Be Considerate Always be aware of your partners feelings as well as boundaries.  Dont be selfish, remember your partner is a person and not just  somthing warm and sexy to curl up next to.  Understand that life is complicated just as people are complicated.  Dont just act on the principles of what you desire, sex is the most intimate that you can be with another individuial, be aware that your partner has wants and needs as well.  If you show that you are concerned with your partner's well being, it will show and they will most likely recprocate the gesture. 

(9)   Be Confidant
To be a great lover, you have to believe that you are a great lover. Dont be timid and unsure of your abilities. This goes hand in had with being smart. and knowing what you are doing before you even begin.  If you know yourself and your limitations, as well as those of your partners. You can judge your moves much more efficantly. Being one step ahead of the game never hurt anyone.  Know that whatever you set your mind to you can acheve, in life or something as simple and complex as the art of sex.
(10)  Be Giving
Remember that sex is a sharing experience.  In sex your own personal pleasure should be second to that of your partner.  If you are wiling to put your own desire aside for that of your partners, you  will be able to be more effective in giving that pleasure to them.  If to do so you must incorporate all of the above practices, it is not just an idea of giving, but the act of giving that makes the magic happen.   Always stay trying to improve, this means techniques as well as timing.  Keep a positive mindset, and know that  If you make the effort eventually you  will reap the rewards of being a successful lover.