When to Call a Relationship Quits

Just because you find yourself ready to leave a relationship doesn’t mean you are a failure at love.  It really doesn’t even mean you still don’t share feelings of love with the person you are with.  Sometimes leaving a relationship is a way of just doing what is best for you and/or what is best for the other person as well.  Here are some of the major signs that might indicate it is time to call it quits when it comes to your relationship. 

When you’re exhausted – Either mentally or physically, when you find yourself continually exhausted being around the person this can indicate that the relationship might be wearing on you.  While a great relationship can fuel the fires of your being, a relationship gone bad, can sap the energy from you.  If you feel more energized when you are alone than when you are with the person with whom you are in a relationship, this can be a clear indication that your relationship might not be a healthy one. 

When you want to escape – The toll that an unhealthy relationship takes can make you want to get away from everything associated with it.  Whether the desire to flee is real or only in your mind, it can be a warning signal that things are not right in your relationship.  When the joy of the life you are living is no longer there (for more than just a day or two here and there) but you don’t feel this way when the person you are with isn’t around, it might be time to call it quits. 

When it’s abusive – It might seem obvious that if you are in an abusive relationship, whether physically or verbally, it should be time to call it quits, but it isn’t always that easy.  Many things can hold a person in a relationship that is in some way harmful, including children, money, security, fear, and yes, even love.  However, when a relationship is abusive, it very rarely turns out for the best, so this can be a strong indication that it is time to consider leaving. 

When the joy is gone – The thrill of a new love or relationship always fade eventually, but there is a difference between becoming accustomed to and comfortable with a relationship and actually losing the spark that made it special in the first place.  When you find that the joy of just being around the person is no longer there, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship.

When the other party is unhappy – If you truly love someone, sometimes it is best to let them go so that they might better and more happily live their life.  This can be one of the hardest ways in which to end a relationship, at least for you.  Giving up someone you enjoy and who makes you happy in order to make him or her happy often results in very little reward for you.  Deep down you know you are doing what is right, but that doesn’t help the hurt.  Still, you must realize that in the end, you are doing what is best for both of you.   

Disclaimer:

This article is for informational purposes only. The author is not a licensed therapist or relationship expert.  Any action taken by the reader due to the information provided in this article is at the reader’s discretion.