How to Cope with Lovesickness

Lovesickness can make you literally sick. It can cause emotional and physical distress. Lovesickness can occur during a relationship when things aren't going well or it  can be due to the new and euphoric feelings you have when you first fall in love. Lovesickness tends to occur most during the pain of a breakup. There are ways of coping with lovesickness.

Understanding Lovesickness

When in a relationship one may experience sick feelings because they fear they aren't loved as much as they are loving. They are constantly on edge and depend on the moments they feel loved, to feel good.

The fear may consume them to the point of pushing the other away. In this case, it's important to understand if the fear has merit or if there are insecurities that need to be worked on. Some build their life so tightly wrapped around another person, they lose themselves, thus allowing a negative sense of well-being. Don't allow your relationship to sink because of insecurities. Embrace what you have while you have it, even if it means seeking professional help. Figure out why you don't feel loved as much as you need and communicate those needs to your partner. Work the issues out with your partner and don't allow your sick feelings to escalate. Your health and relationship can greatly be impacted, negatively!

If you've experienced a break-up, it can make you both physically and emotionally ill. You've invested time and deep emotions with another. The pain cannot be denied, but it can be dealt with. Time helps fade the pain, but it's what you do in this time that makes a difference.

How to Cope with Lovesickness

* Allow yourself to grieve and cry for a period of time. Don't get consumed in this
stage for long, but it's important not to repress what you hold inside.

* Stay in contact with friends or family. Vent your deepest feelings to a trusted
friend or even a professional, if needed.

* Accept what has happened and learn more about yourself from the experience. Realize
that you are now open to new and positive experiences.

* Involve yourself in activities. Try a new hobby or something you've put on the back
burner. Bring your passions to life and energize your spirit!

* Write! - keep a journal, write poetry, write letters to your ex and then burn them
as a therapeutic ritual.

* Pamper yourself! - treat yourself to a day at the spa, a bubble bath or a lazy
afternoon of movies at home, including your favorite snacks.

* Get plenty of rest, exercise and eat well. Feeling better physically will help to
feel better emotionally. Also, exercise helps ward off depression.

* Reach out to others! - while extreme for most, during the worst break-up of my life
I created a non-profit website, without any prior experience and for the purpose of
helping others. In the process, I greatly helped myself. Doing volunteer work at a
hospital, nursing home or in your community will help take focus off of your
heartache. Focusing too much on the problem can only make it worse.

* Invite your most bubbly friends over, put on some upbeat music, dance and act
silly! Laughter can be contagious and this is one time you want to catch the bug".

* Surround yourself in nature or around fluffy four-legged friends. Nature offers a
tranquil atmosphere and fluffy friends offer wonderful companionship and love.

* Engage in LIFE.

Lovesickness in any form is real. It hurts, but you will recover. Reopen a new chapter of life. Hold belief in the promise that love will find you again! Until then, take good care of yourself.